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I don't think that a lot of men get this. Women go to more trouble then men do in certain ways on dates. They buy more expensive clothes and make up. There are more rules for how they should act... it's more of a pain for them in certain ways. That's one reason why men pay.
No disrespect, but I don't know one other man besides you that thinks this way.
But whose idea was the date? I see this way: the one asking you out on a date is the host while you're the guest.
In my experience one person MAY technically ask the other for the date, but in general both people want to go on the date. Or the date is sort of assumed.
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You're not gonna treat them exactly the same. It would be weird to be asked out on a date and he/she treats you as one of his/her buddies.
Ok. Agreed. But, again, how does any of that relate as to whom should pay?
If the guy you are with doesn't view you as girlfriend/wife material then it won't matter how many dates you pay for. Once you get put into booty call category there is nothing you can do to get out of it.
Women paying for date only applies to guys that are truly interested in getting to know them. Not guys looking to only have sex with you.
Any man that says he is not impressed with a woman offering to pay for a date is a CLUELESS if you ask me. Serious issues behind that mentality.
This is kind of what I figured... if he's interested, all rules go out the window and it doesn't matter who pays. If he's not interested, it also doesn't matter because it's not going any farther.
Of course, in regards to the booty call thing, I won't become a booty call so that's a non-issue.
I don't think that a lot of men get this. Women go to more trouble then men do in certain ways on dates. They buy more expensive clothes and make up. There are more rules for how they should act... it's more of a pain for them in certain ways. That's one reason why men pay.
TV, if a person enjoys your company, you can tell by facial expressions, tone of voice and eagerness to spend time with you. The second you say, "I've paid for two or three dates; now it's your turn," you'll dry out that woman's panties faster than a hand dryer in a public restroom. I don't know about you, but I personally like sex. I think that sex is a much more likely possibility if a woman feels comfortable, appreciated, entertained and complimented throughout the evening. I'm not seeing a discussion about the bill leading to any of these states.
Does not matter. What kind of guy in his right mind thinks a lady is desperate for offering to pay for a meal with a guy that she really enjoys being with. Makes no sense.
In my experience one person MAY technically ask the other for the date, but in general both people want to go on the date. Or the date is sort of assumed.
Yes, I do agree that both wanted it but it doesn't erase the fact that one still did the asking. Therefore, he/she should already know ahead of time that it's gonna cost but it doesn't have to be an elegant place. It can be cheap (well as long as it's not McDonald's) but decent.
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Ok. Agreed. But, again, how does any of that relate as to whom should pay?
Different rules when going out with your friends/buddie vs on a date.
Yes, I do agree that both wanted it but it doesn't erase the fact that one still did the asking. Therefore, he/she should already know ahead of time that it's gonna cost but it doesn't have to be an elegant place.
What does that have to do with who should pay?
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Different rules when going out with your friends/buddie vs on a date.
What are these rules? Who made them? Who enforces them? Why is one of the rules that the asker should pay? This has yet to be answered.
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