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Old 08-25-2011, 11:15 AM
 
Location: USA
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Originally Posted by addicted2helping View Post
In 2011 I can understand why people have no morals, standards or values....because society continues to make excuses for those with no character.

Either you have character, or you don't.
"In 2011 I can understand why people have no morals,"
2011 has nothing to do with it and that means the majority of people have no morals. Men and woman have be cheating on each other since the beginning of man kind. If you include Married, SOs and BF/GF relationships it has occurred in the lives of 98% of the population.

Look at the divorce rate and add 50% and that will give you an idea of how common infidelity is in marriage. It may occur in the beginning, middle or end of a marriage and it may occur during separation but it will occur sometime in the majority of all marriages.

As common as it is our society we will never accept it. Maybe in some Latin countries with the "don't ask, Don't tell" philosophy.

The solution in our society was posted by someone above. Don't get married! Just like most people think that they should have kids, marriage is not right for everyone! If you don't have the necessary tools don't take on the project!
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Old 08-25-2011, 11:31 AM
 
Location: Maryland
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I think a better question is if a guy knows he has a propensity to cheat and cannot stop this or help himself, why don't they stay far away from committed relationships and never marry.

Just stay bachelors. Have their fun. Disclose of this when meeting new women. No one gets hurt.
Cakes, this won't happen. People want what they want. I worked with a guy on his 4th marriage. All his marriages ended, because of cheating on his part.

My guess, he'll met a woman he has to have. Marry her. Problem is, there are plenty of attractive and interesting women out here. Next thing, he has another woman on the side.
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Old 08-25-2011, 02:05 PM
 
Location: USA
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Cakes, this won't happen. People want what they want. I worked with a guy on his 4th marriage. All his marriages ended, because of cheating on his part.

My guess, he'll met a woman he has to have. Marry her. Problem is, there are plenty of attractive and interesting women out here. Next thing, he has another woman on the side.
Why in the world does he get married, when he's obviously no good at it?
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Old 08-25-2011, 02:43 PM
 
Location: East coast-New England
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I am going to be blunt for a moment.,.....


Should women start accepting cheating from a man as long as he doesn't bring it home or make it very obvious?..disrespectful....

And just to add support, I have spoken to females who say that they don't care if their man is cheating, as long as they are not being disrespected and use protection.

In 2011, I cannot understand why a woman would be surprised if their man/husband cheated.


See, I can have trust issues at times. And seeing this crap makes it hard for me, because it just reinforces this in my head that men are just plain freaking animals that can't keep it in their pants even if they are in a relationship. Im soo trying to not be that way, but I swear.... One step at a time..one step at a time. No flaming here..I said im working on it.

Okay. as you can tell by my first paragraph I darn sure would not be surprised. However, would I accept it..h#ll no. I have never ever cheated. If I can keep my legs closed to other men, he can keep his d**k in his pants when it comes to other women. GOSH i swear do people have to screw EVERYTHING out there?????
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Old 08-25-2011, 02:46 PM
 
Location: East coast-New England
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In 2011 I can understand why people have no morals, standards or values....because society continues to make excuses for those with no character.
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Either you have character, or you don't.




^^^^^ This.
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Old 08-25-2011, 05:42 PM
 
Location: Maryland
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Why in the world does he get married, when he's obviously no good at it?
Why do women marry him. Women will ALWAYS think he won't do it to me. The last female didn't know how to love him.

I knew his last wife. She thought the same. The ex worked in the building. They would flaunt the relationship and their love in her face. After a year, the wife divorced him, because of his mistress. He was dating her before and during the marriage.
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Old 08-25-2011, 05:53 PM
 
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Why do women marry him. Women will ALWAYS think he won't do it to me. The last female didn't know how to love him.

I knew his last wife. She thought the same. The ex worked in the building. They would flaunt the relationship and their love in her face. After a year, the wife divorced him, because of his mistress. He was dating her before and during the marriage.
Wow! this must have been one hot guy?
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Old 08-25-2011, 06:06 PM
 
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The solution in our society was posted by someone above. Don't get married! Just like most people think that they should have kids, marriage is not right for everyone! If you don't have the necessary tools don't take on the project!
Excellent advice.
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Old 08-26-2011, 06:42 AM
 
Location: Central, IL
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I think a better question is if a guy knows he has a propensity to cheat and cannot stop this or help himself, why don't they stay far away from committed relationships and never marry.

Just stay bachelors. Have their fun. Disclose of this when meeting new women. No one gets hurt.
Or they can find a woman that is fine with having an open or a polyamorous relationship, and then they don't have to cheat, because it will be in the open and no hurting involved.
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Old 08-26-2011, 02:53 PM
 
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I am going to be blunt for a moment.,.....


Should women start accepting cheating from a man as long as he doesn't bring it home or make it very obvious?..disrespectful....

And just to add support, I have spoken to females who say that they don't care if their man is cheating, as long as they are not being disrespected and use protection.

In 2011, I cannot understand why a woman would be surprised if their man/husband cheated.
In 2011, I cannot understand why a man who enjoys sex with multiple partners would marry ANY woman and then proceed to be a conduit for misery, despair and disillusionment by cheating on her with other women. Singleness has lost pretty much all of its social stigma. He could stay single and play the field until he has to use to aid of a cane or a walker to leave it (some men refuse to leave the field even then!) Leave that woman free to find a man who will be what she deserves: loving and faithful to her.

Married players, upon looking up the word "SELFISH" in the dictionary would probably not be surprised to find a picture of THEMSELVES beaming back at them.
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