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Umm, stop overanalyzing and just be yourself. Seeking "instructions" online tells me you don't want to be yourself, you want to act a certain part. That spells disaster.
Not a guy, but I'd still advise you to be yourself. It's a lot easier this way than to keep up an act, and there's no tried/true list of things you must say. What works for other guys may not work for this date.
I'd start by finding things in common and working your way from there. Obviously nothing too controversial or explicit yet. Good luck on your date!
Based on what you know of this woman, ask her questions about herself. Is she from the area? Does she like to travel? etc. Don't give her the third degree or anything, just chat.
Jobaba, can I ask you how you met this girl and how you got the date? I've been a long while dateless, and I'm out of ideas...
Here's an idea...strike up a conversation with every woman you meet - in the grocery store check out line, in the bookstore, the library, pumping gas, in line at the bank - EVERYWHERE.
You simply have to be willing to put yourself out there.
Put a smile on your face and your best foot forward.
Eventually at least one woman will respond in a way that lets you know it's okay to ask her for coffee or a phone number.
This is an easy one. Talk about her, not about you. It makes her feel like you are interested and she is important. It is a topic that she knows well and is comfortable with. It allows you to get to know a lot about her. Keep it interesting by using occasional anectdotes (i.e. if she likes water skiing and talks a lot about water skiing take a second to tell her about your first experience water skiing, and then go back to her).
Do nto over do it however. You do not want her to go home and when asked about you say "I know nothing about him" and you should not grill her like a 20 questions game, but just keep the conversation focused around her interests and experiences.
Do not talk about:
Old beaus of either of you.
Family members who are sick or recently died.
Any illnesses or diseases that you have or had in the past.
Politics, religion, drugs, how much you can drink, throwing up at parties, bodily functions.
Your mother.
Your wealth, education, physique, intelligence, sports prowess, or refinement. Any of these things should be apparent through the course of your date and do not need you to blow your horn about them.
Marriage or children.
Any plans you have to move out of the country or state in the immediate future.
How much you like to play video games.
How boring your life is.
How incredibly broke you are.
Try to avoid insulting or flirting with the waitress, sending food back, complaining about anything, farting, belching, picking you nose. Be sure that you wash your hands if you go to the bathroom. Try to not leave her sitting alone. Pull out her chair for her, open doors (including your car door). Leave the music off or low. Do not show off your driving prowess. Do not get drunk.
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It's a lot easier this way than to keep up an act, and there's no tried/true list of things you must say. What works for other guys may not work for this date. 
