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This is so very true. TV and the movies have most definitely warped our expectations when it comes to dating and relationships. We all deny it, but the media has a much bigger influence on our attitudes than we care to admit.
Will agree with this. Our culture has shifted. Younger women are always looking for the next best thing to help boost their social status. They're all trying to sell their "brand". Whatever that means. Like they believe their lives are a reality show and a camera crew is documenting every moment. Just look at how often they update all that social media stuff? As if people really care. Real narcissism....
I have been friends for many years with a tall, really handsome guy (50) who is kind, extremely generous, and has a stable, decent-paying job. He has two advanced degrees. And because he is a FWB, I can testify that his enthusiasm and skills in the sack are second to none, and he has a very attractive body.
He is also single and rarely gets dates.
His problem? He acts weird.
His sense of humor is odd and juvenile. The topics he obsessively talks about are pedantic and boring to most. He has a very rigid routine, eating breakfast at the same diner every day, going to the same place on vacation every year, etc. He has few friends and no social life. He has a nervous way of moving and acting that can be hard to relax around.
The strangest thing of all is that he has no self-awareness of any of this. I try to help him by giving him pointers, but he is mired in his way of being and will never change.
I share this story because the OP may find it useful to have someone evaluate how he comes across to women in social situations like dates.
Also, it adds anecdotal data to the theory that being handsome, stable and educated alone will not get you a woman.
Will agree with this. Our culture has shifted. Younger women are always looking for the next best thing to help boost their social status. They're all trying to sell their "brand". Whatever that means. Like they believe their lives are a reality show and a camera crew is documenting every moment. Just look at how often they update all that social media stuff? As if people really care. Real narcissism....
You can't generalize like this. I know a number of women in their 20's, and none of them remotely fit this description.
This is also observed in the animal kingdom. Aggressive, high-status alpha males get to have sex with all the females while their weaker peers get very few if any mating opportunities.
Nature is cruel and this is probably not going to change anytime soon, if ever.
It's not human nature, it's animal nature. Humans have highly evolved brains, so they can rise above animal instinct. Many do. Some don't. Look for the ones that do, there are plenty out there.
Most women aren't interested in "muscular", not for a serious relationship. Many women value a good heart and a strong intellect, and humor.
If women love stable, respectable, men with good jobs why am I still single?
I'm 45 never been married. Work at a good Government job in the IT field but I can't get a second date. Now I'm no Brad Pitt but I think women should look past looks and see me for my stability and what I could potentially bring to a relationship.
Women are delusional and they regularly lie about what they want. They'd be embarrassed to tell you the truth.
This is especially true when some women's studies academic gets together a group of divorced women to drink coffee and complain about their exes.
None of them want to tell the truth for fear of being considered crass so the MSM gets fed a load of bull that has the effect of harming most men who thing that if only they try harder, success will be theirs. Sorry, but for most men, the fix is in and there is little one can do except to really lower your sights - very low.
Im 45 never been married. Work at a good Government job in the IT field but I can't get a second date. Now I'm no Brad Pitt but I think women should look past looks and see me for my stability and what I could potentially bring to a relationship.
Most single men feel this way, and there's a reason why American Men feel frustrated. Unfortunately, American Gals outside of America are viewed horribly .... Travel abroad and realize how women really are, and how nice they can be.
Many women value a good heart and a strong intellect, and humor.
Yes but these women are very rare and very hard to find and since I don't get out much the probability that I'll ever find a woman like that in this lifetime is something like 0.00001%
Im 45 never been married. Work at a good Government job in the IT field but I can't get a second date. Now I'm no Brad Pitt but I think women should look past looks and see me for my stability and what I could potentially bring to a relationship.
Good Morning Keith...I married an I.T. guy who was late 40's at the time, never had a serious girlfriend let alone been married before. He is stable, loving and it absolutely amazes me he has never been in a serious relationship prior to me. I have asked him and all he ever has said is "I was always working" or "I was always in school/college". It appears that he didn't take any down time for himself and was always career driven...making money became his priority and his life kind of blew right by him. You don't have to be Brad Pitt to have a life of some sort that includes a wife and children. What you do have to do is learn how to back down from your job and priorities for a time and relax. You will meet all sorts of women who like to perhaps jog in the park, go on a cruise, enjoy a summer concert, go to the beach. When you do meet these women, you have to show them some sort of personality and by this I mean talk about something other than I.T. stuff.
My I.T. guy is quiet, smart, and doesn't talk much when he is out with our friends or our family..it gets on peoples nerves so we have had many disucssions about his introverted personality which I do believe comes from his inability to extend himself beyond his work. We are working on it, but it is frustrating.
Now, you ask why I got interested in him?? I saw potential in him and he does show his personality occasionally and under all that seriousness, he is lots of fun.
My recommendation for you..RELAX and don't take yourself quite so seriously. Above all else, stop having such a low opinion of yourself i.e. the Brad Pitt statement..good luck and loosen up and things should get better for you.
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