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No, they are the benchmark other people need to emulate.
They always make me feel good. Especially when the whole family shows up in church or something....... or the Dad, Mom and two kids, all take a bicycle ride on the bike trail by the side of the road - I see this a LOT in Connecticut. That's how a family should be.
If I am ever envious, it's only when I come across a dude who pulls a higher paycheque But even that feeds into some kind of a negative positivity, the resulting angst drives up the ambition co-efficient
As I read k374's post I saw a few things I think are misconceptions: Good or great relationships don't happen because of luck, or because two people got lucky. They happen because two people care enough to make it happen. A good relationship/marriage takes a lot of work, and a lot of understanding, along with a generous portion of forgiveness. Usually it takes two people who are mature and have had their share of heartache and struggles in life and have basically the same interests in life. We never know what goes on behind closed doors, so it is almost impossible to gauge how other couples get along unless you spend lots of time with them. We have a couple friends who are devote Christians from all outward appearances, but the way he talks to his wife, at times, really bothers me. She gets mad at him for his hurtful words but soon forgets his remarks. I wouldn't dream of talking to my wife like that. If you can't say nice things to your mate, keep your mouth shut.
There's no such thing as a perfect marriage or a perfect relationship. Anyone who would ever say, "Oh, I have a perfect marriage!" almost certainly does not.
Many couples put on an elaborate act to convince outsiders they are blissfully in love and in perfect accord. Generally, these same people end up divorced. And PDA's mean nothing. In fact, the couples who paw each other and constantly kiss or make out in public are invariably the ones who have a terrible relationship.
I have a pair of acquaintances like that. They've met since they were 15, and they've been together for 10 years now. I wouldn't call them the perfect couple though, but they seem plenty in love. I'm not envious at all because I believe that one ought to date a few bad boys and break a few hearts in their youth, it's all part of the life experience that makes us grow. For that same reason and others, many don't want to settle down too fast.
Also, I'm a little bit skeptical about anyone who claims to have a perfect relationship. We tend to see the good in other people's relationships and not aware of all the hard work that goes into making the relationship perfect or all the arguing that happens behind doors.
I'm not jealous because I think I have the perfect relationship! Now - before you all jump on me and say there is no such thing and if you say you have one that means you don't - I have the perfect relationship for me. We argue, fight, get on each other's nerves, bicker, etc. - but there is nobody else I'd rather spend my life with. There's nobody else that I laugh as much with. There's nobody else gets me like my husband does. So while this may not be the perfect relationship for anyone else - it's perfect for us.
Nope...I'm happy for them and hope things continue to work out. Don't believe that there's any such thing as a "perfect" marriage, because there is no such thing. By the way, what may be perfect for you, may not be perfect for someone else. The key is in not being too offensive, being respectful, being kind and being tolerant. Don't ever expect perfection, because no one is perfect.
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But even that feeds into some kind of a negative positivity, the resulting angst drives up the ambition co-efficient 
