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Agreed, from what I've seen. As for speculation about meeting your current (near-ideal) partner earlier, we've considered that. We think it might have worked out well (thinking back about how we were say 10 years ago), but we also think it's possible that the experiences and attitudes we developed during the time we did not know each other shaped us in a variety of ways that made us truly compatible when we did meet. Now, we focus on growing together (and not grow apart) - because relationships and the individuals in them aren't static.
Absolutely. As you know, you'll change more in your twenties than you will for the rest of your life. Your attitudes, your politics, your tastes, your approach to relationships, you name it. If you find Mr/Mrs Right at age 19 or 21, how can you be sure that person will grow in the same direction as you in the years to come? What if that person's life takes them in a wholly different direction?
I mean it's great if it happens for the best. Despite my earlier comment about wishing I had met MrsCPG ten years earlier, I'm not sure that would have been for the best. We've frequently joked that we probably wouldn't have liked one another had we met in high school or in college.
Many people who meet and marry at very young ages actually wind up splitting apart when they reach their thirties and forties. They are blissfully happy until they are not.
Just curious...what do you think (and have seen, in your experiences with observing this) it is specifically, that causes these "younger-marrieds" relationships, to actually fail, eventually?
Very intriguing...
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Just curious...what do you think (and have seen, in your experiences with observing this) it is specifically, that causes such a younger-marrieds relationship, to actually fail?
Thanks...yes, just took a look at thet post you had cited...lol, I think I was in the process of writing and being about to send my posted question to you, right about when you submitted post #71...
Nah, I get what you mean! It's one thing to sit there brooding about how you wish you had something, it's another to sit there figuring out how you're gonna get it.
I know. That is why my post was not directed to you. I was more on the camp of brooding rather than doing.
No I dont envy them. I respect them. That being said there is no perfect relationship. There are those that work and those that dont. And what you see is usually far from the reality. I ADORE my SO. Is our relationship perfect? No. We fight sometimes. We get on each others nerves. But I know she loves me. And she knows I love her. We arent perfect. But I love her perfect imperfections. We have been through hell and back and she never gave up on me even though I was intolerable at times.
We WORK at it. We argue and make up. We are brutaly honest with each other. We fight and forgive and forget. I actually resisted getting too close to her for awhile. But now I cant stand to be away from her. Is she perfect? No. Im I? HELL no. But we make it work. Any woman that can tolerate me for any length of time is a hell of a woman in my eyes. So we accept that we arent perfect and to be honest we love that we are not. Actually she just text that she misses me. So time to go home.
No. I went to about 50 weddings during the "wedding years" of my early-mid 20's. Out of those 50 marriages, I'd say at least 30 of them have failed. Out of those 30 failed marriages, roughly 28 of them were due to infidelity or dissatisfaction on the part of the female in the marriage.
No. I went to about 50 weddings during the "wedding years" of my early-mid 20's. Out of those 50 marriages, I'd say at least 30 of them have failed. Out of those 30 failed marriages, roughly 28 of them were due to infidelity or dissatisfaction on the part of the female in the marriage.
Thats exactly my experience too. With the weddings I have been to.
I don't see how meeting at 15 and dating forever give your the perfect relationship. A cute story? Sure. Perfect Relationship. No way. If anything I would kind of feel sorry that those people never go to experience what being single is. I mean I guess it's great to share all your firsts with someone but I found it so exciting to move away and get my first apartment and first job and graduate from college and think the possibilities were endless...I couldn't imagine being tied to someone that young.
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I know. That is why my post was not directed to you. I was more on the camp of brooding rather than doing.
