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Eh, no. I don't give a shot about that. Plus, there is no such thing as a "perfect love story". Love is crazy and you can find love in the craziest of situations.
Can't say I know anyone with the perfect relationship, married or not. In fact, most married ppl I know feel the same way that I do...marriage is work. If you want something to work properly, you have to maintain it regularly.
Can't say I know anyone with the perfect relationship, married or not. In fact, most married ppl I know feel the same way that I do...marriage is work. If you want something to work properly, you have to maintain it regularly.
I think we all have felt it in our lives though. Just don't dwell in it, if you want something that someone else has, admire them and learn from them, don't hate them or become envious. That is a sure way to stay miserable.
My first marriage was a shambles. This one, while not "perfect", is as good as it gets! The key isn't working at it (sometimes, yes). And compatibility in a number of areas is certainly very, very helpful. Essentially, for a great marriage, I think both partners must sincerely do - and WANT to do - whatever they can to help their partner feel loved, appreciated, and fulfilled, and in the ways that matter to them, not you.
Recently, someone posted an article about the concept of a Generous Relationship - that captures a lot of what it takes for a relationship to be exceptional.
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Originally Posted by LegalDiva
Sleeping in separate beds doesnt mean their relationship is awful- for that couple, it works. I actually read a CNN article a few years ago tnat showed a high number of couples do this! The most common reason is because one spouse snores and the other is a light sleeper, or because they have to get up at different times..doesnt mean they dont love each other less- but that sleep is the top priority for them..if it we had an extra guest room in our home, my husband and I would probably take turns sleeping apart just because of snoring issues! different strokes for different folks!
It does in this case and they are who I was talking about. My point was things aren't always as they appear. Everyone thinks they have a perfect relationship. He knows better.
No such thing as the 'perfect' relationship. However I wouldn't exchange the type of relationship DH & I have for any other I have seen, so that's got to be pretty good!
Relationships that work, work because it's a little give and take. They know their partners weaknesses and their strengths. They are willing to compromise. Have patience. Their friends. Companions. They argue then make up. Some may actually love each other. Imagine that.
Exactly and they seem "perfect" on the outside because they took the time to know their partners and remember details about them.
Sometimes people argue over things like if the final decision is life-or-death. I don't think folks in successful relationships do this.
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Originally Posted by beachmel
This is a thread about "happy marriages/relationships" isn't it? Why would I envy anyone....I HAVE one of those marriages, of nearly 30 years. I have nothing to be envious of. It's not perfect, but it's perfect enough for us.
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Originally Posted by Knight2009
I am happy for them, and wish them all blessings and happiness, in their relationship together! Have never been jealous / envious of other ppl's good fortune and happiness
I will admit that I have felt rather sad, depressed, and/or discouraged at times in the past, that I was unable to have someone special and loving, in my own life...but this unhappiness was targeted inward, at myself, and never at the happy couple (as I previously saw myself, personally, as a failure and unlovable) But jealousy or malice, towards the happy loving couple? Never!
This post is not directed to you, Knight.
Those feelings are more like it but I wouldn't call them envy like another poster did. Those feelings are normal to have because life is not perfect.
People will kick you down for those feelings and it is easy to become confused and even angry about having them. That is why a supportive spouse makes all the difference in the world. That is what makes the relationship perfect.
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different strokes for different folks!
Are you envious of those who have the perfect relationship?
But jealousy or malice, towards the happy loving couple? Never! 
