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That's the way most women are. Women need to be sexually attracted to you to get romantically involved. And most of that sexual attraction is generated by a man's natural looks and whatever other qualities can trigger her emotional sense of attraction.
Don't ever try and bring common sense and practicality into it. Women will not settle for someone they feel no physical or emotional attraction for if they don't have to. And if they do settle, they're a risk to cheat when emotionally compromised by another man.
Just for the record, my mentality is very similar to yours.
I can only speak for myself - but initial looks mean nothing to me. Only upon getting to know someone can I speak of their looks. Experience has taught me that someone I wouldn't have looked twice at may become the most gorgeous person in the world once I get to know them - and someone that turns head might become extremely unattractive based on their personality. For me - sexual attraction grows out of who a person is - not just what they look like.
I can only speak for myself - but initial looks mean nothing to me. Only upon getting to know someone can I speak of their looks. Experience has taught me that someone I wouldn't have looked twice at may become the most gorgeous person in the world once I get to know them - and someone that turns head might become extremely unattractive based on their personality. For me - sexual attraction grows out of who a person is - not just what they look like.
Wow. Not every day you hear something like that. Cool.
Spot on Greenpapyas. Thats why average and below average looking men need to worry about their income level.Or they need to take on some persona or join a band.
Interesting how women are saying money is not important at all but then again you see threads here and there where women express how irritating it is for a man to not pay for her expenses, use coupons, not have a car, live with the parents, not have a job, etc.
I'm sorry this makes no sense to me :-/ So if he has a good sense of humor you'll date him until you realize his actual personality sucks?
aren't we dating to know each other?
of course if his personality sucks, i can know this without dating so i don't date him. but i assumed that his personality is not "obviously bad" so i date him, right? of course personality comes first, but in the first date i can't say "ohhh he's such a good person". but i can say "ohh he's sooo funny.". do you understand me now?
it's like this situation:
personality is much more important than his look
but we can start to feel something to a person who we didn't meet before, just because he's good looking. but then we can see that he's not a good person, so everything is over.
i don't think what i'm saying is nonsensible but it may be because of my English.
Interesting how women are saying money is not important at all but then again you see threads here and there where women express how irritating it is for a man to not pay for their expenses, use coupons, not have a car, live with the parents, not have a job, etc.
Look at it this way - many women are able to overlook many things if the guy has an awesome personality. However - a rich jerk is only going to get a gold digger because most women would not put up with him. This thread was about what was most important - not about everything that is important. Now, personally, I could really care less about money. As my husband says - money comes and money goes. But even if someone did care about money - they still might care about someone's personality more.
Just FYI - the guy you are describing - using coupons (on a first date - that was what the thread was about that you always refer to), not paying for anything on dates, not having a car (presuming you live in a city where one is necessary - living in NYC, none of my friends had cars), living with your parents, and not having a job - well, he isn't exactly a catch! I mean - even you can see that - right?
Look at it this way - many women are able to overlook many things if the guy has an awesome personality
That’s right. Same way a man may overlook a woman’s appearance if she’s nice to be with. But many women not even give a guy a chance if they start going out and notice that the guy doesn’t own a car, does not have a job, does not have money, lives with the parents, used coupons, etc.
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I could really care less about money
Same here. I can care less about appearance. Heck, I even had a relationship with a physically challenged girl.
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Just FYI - the guy you are describing - using coupons (on a first date - that was what the thread was about that you always refer to), not paying for anything on dates, not having a car (presuming you live in a city where one is necessary - living in NYC, none of my friends had cars), living with your parents, and not having a job - well, he isn't exactly a catch!
A MAN like that won’t be a good catch, you’re right. A man like that does not have money, therefore, it is an important characteristic for women when it comes to dating, relationships, etc. Denying it or ignoring it would be like men saying that a woman's looks have no importance whatsoever when it comes to relationships.
A MAN like that won’t be a good catch, you’re right. A man like that does not have money, therefore, it is an important characteristic for women when it comes to dating, relationships, etc. Denying it or ignoring it would be like men saying that a woman's looks have no importance whatsoever when it comes to relationships.
A woman that used coupons on a first date or didn't contribute at all to the dates, lived with her parents, didn't have a job, and didn't have a car in a city that you needed one in wouldn't exactly be a good catch either! I wasn't implying that he wasn't a good catch because he was a man - honestly! Would you date a 30 year old woman with out a job who lived with her parents, didn't have a car and didn't contribute anything to a date except for a coupon? Any of these one things by themselves is fine - but put them all together like that and you've got one undesirable person - regardless of gender!
I disagree Dewdrop93. If a women used coupons on a first date or did not contribute any money,did not have a car or job and lived with her parents but was very nice,fun to be with and the man is attracted to her, she would indeed be a very good catch for a TON of men out there.
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Women will not settle for someone they feel no physical or emotional attraction for if they don't have to. And if they do settle, they're a risk to cheat when emotionally compromised by another man.
