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I knew you wouldn't read the link. It's sad that so many divorce, but many are doing just fine as well. Not everybody is meant to have everything in life. It's just not how the cards fall.
Divorce rate + people who should have divorced but don't to keep their comfort (aka my parents).
Yea, I know that your parents weren't happy and that you grew up in a challenging environment. I've read that your dad was hardly there and your mom would have been better off without you, which is depressing. It no doubt accounts for your views, and that's how it is for most of us.
As Stan sort of mentioned in the other thread about kids, it really depends on how people are raised most of the time. People who come from challenging homes, homes that did not value and prioritize family and marriage, likely will follow suit. People coming from that space will end up valuing family. It's like that with most things.
This is key. And we see it here on this forum, over and over and over again.
That can be achieved without being married. Much less complicated too if the relationship doesn't work out. No nasty court battles, no alimony, no dividing up the assets, nada. Sin mierda.
Cohabitation is the way to go.
Why would a long-term cohabitation end any more cleanly or amicably than marriage? You still have to divide the accumulated assets. Living together without being married doesn't protect you from painful breakups or arguing about stuff. Then you're arguing over who really owns the Sopranos box set she let you put on her credit card four years ago.
This is key. And we see it here on this forum, over and over and over again.
Oh yea, and these guys have no idea how different life is for other people. I can relate to them because my parents divorced (although they weren't hateful and that mattered), but when I look at my husband's family it's a different ball game all together. He's such a devoted husband and he's so happy with life. That's due to his roots.
Why would a long-term cohabitation end any more cleanly or amicably than marriage? You still have to divide the accumulated assets. Living together without being married doesn't protect you from painful breakups or arguing about stuff. Then you're arguing over who really owns the Sopranos box set she let you put on her credit card four years ago.
Yep. This^^. I'd never consider living together these days. No way.
Why would a long-term cohabitation end any more cleanly or amicably than marriage? You still have to divide the accumulated assets. Living together without being married doesn't protect you from painful breakups or arguing about stuff. Then you're arguing over who really owns the Sopranos box set she let you put on her credit card four years ago.
That's why it would be much more sensible for people to live seperately. I've already said it in the other thread. They can be together whenever they want but each person has their own space and pays their own bills.
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