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How does that anecdote indicate you're not a loser? Acting like an A-hole to other A-holes doesn't exactly scream "winner".
You sound like this nerd I know- Me and my buddy were at the pool yesterday hanging out with two girls and this nerd, I was given the girls crap the entire time, dissing them and cracking up, this freaking nerd, would say stuff like "This is not nice- I think this is enough, stop please"- I am glad he left the pool before we kicked his ass.
Intriguing experiment. When you go out are you normally forceful like you were as the mean girl but in a friendly way? Like, do you go up to men to start conversations?
Yep, all the time. It's how I've met most of my male friends
The conclusion I've come to is that a 'nice, friendly' woman is seen as boring and too available, and I need to walk the line between bitchy and nice.
You sound like this nerd I know- Me and my buddy were at the pool yesterday hanging out with two girls and this nerd, I was given the girls crap the entire time, dissing them and cracking up, this freaking nerd, would say stuff like "This is not nice- I think this is enough, stop please"- I am glad he left the pool before we kicked his ass.
Well, this girl would have been into the 'nerd' and written you off completely.
You sound like this nerd I know- Me and my buddy were at the pool yesterday hanging out with two girls and this nerd, I was given the girls crap the entire time, dissing them and cracking up, this freaking nerd, would say stuff like "This is not nice- I think this is enough, stop please"- I am glad he left the pool before we kicked his ass.
You can't be serious?!
Everyone who just realized (like me) that RC is an
adolescent/boy--raise your hand!
Well, this girl would have been into the 'nerd' and written you off completely.
No, no, you see, he is an alpha male who calls the shots. He can give girls crap all day at the pool and it's ok, but he strongly disapproves of your experiment. It must be hard to be him.
You sound like this nerd I know- Me and my buddy were at the pool yesterday hanging out with two girls and this nerd, I was given the girls crap the entire time, dissing them and cracking up, this freaking nerd, would say stuff like "This is not nice- I think this is enough, stop please"- I am glad he left the pool before we kicked his ass.
You got a lot of anger management issues dude. I'm sure at your age you would know the difference between being a bully and being a decent guy who stands for himself. At least I would hope that you know.
So, I mentioned in a few threads that this weekend I was going to try to be a 'mean girl' and just see what happened. So, I put on my big girl jeans (as well as a TON of makeup...yick) and went out on the town.
I got 6 phone numbers. SIX FREAKING PHONE NUMBERS. I actually got in an argument with some guy, poured a gin and tonic on him and he asked me out. He also bought me another gin and tonic.
I tripped someone and laughed at him, he gave me a hug and asked if I wanted to hang out sometime.
I told some guy his car sounded lame and that maybe he should be hitting on men instead of women (it hurt me to say this, to be honest ) and rolled my eyes. No smile, dead serious. He laughed and asked if I wanted to go for a drive sometime.
I TOLD 3 guys to buy me drinks. One said no, the others did with no hesitation. I didn't even say thank you, got my drink and walked away. One of them followed me around asking me out until I left.
A few other things happened, but those were the biggies.
Maybe I should just start acting mean to get dates. I had one of them write his number on a cocktail napkin, I looked at it, said I changed my mind and tore it up. He proceeded to try and give me his business card.
Wow. I'm just stunned. It took a lot out of me to act this way (I'm never mean unless provoked) so I don't plan on doing it again, but it still shocked me.
But hey, at least I can't say I've never been hit on anymore
The world has gone mad!
Do you realize that this is the kind of behavior some PUA instructors advise men to exhibit toward women? And they say it works. So you've now performed a tremendous public service in proving that men fall for abuse, too.
It must have taken incredible guts to do all that. Were any of these sorry nuts remotely like someone you might actually be interested in? What if you'd taken the experiment further, and gone out with one of these lame-o's? Jeez that's weird; you're nice, but nobody likes tall women. You're bold and mean, suddenly being tall is no issue.
Yep, all the time. It's how I've met most of my male friends
The conclusion I've come to is that a 'nice, friendly' woman is seen as boring and too available, and I need to walk the line between bitchy and nice.
Seems like a logical conclusion, and probably good advice for both sexes. Most people like that push-pull dynamic of someone who knows how to fight back a little. Probably why everyone hates the self-proclaimed nice guys, they're always desperately trying to please women that they come off as boring and obnoxious.
Uh, not to call you a female nice guy.
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You can't be serious?! 
He can give girls crap all day at the pool and it's ok, but he strongly disapproves of your experiment. It must be hard to be him.
) and rolled my eyes. No smile, dead serious. He laughed and asked if I wanted to go for a drive sometime.
Thanks for sharing. That's outrageous!
