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I got to thinking about this today. I am the kind of person who does not wish to change people. I do believe that if a person thinks they need changing, then they are the decider of that. I do not go into a relationship trying to change anyone.
So, is there anything about you or anything that you do that your SO doesn't like, or would like you to change, and did you/would you?
My sweetie has never complained once about anything I do or anything about me....out loud. Not until July 4. He got out of the shower and said, "Do you know that you have 16 bottles of things in the shower?"
I had never really thought about it, but he was right, I did. So, we went into the bathroom and I explained to him my order on the use of all of the products.
I do use them all, but I don't suppose they all need to be in there... By the time he got home from work the next day, the number of bottles was down to 8.
Not a biggie, and not anything to get rid of me over, lol.
Flip side; he keeps all the food downstairs! He doesn't like things on the kitchen or bathroom counters and I am quite the opposite. You can probably tell by all of my products...
I have been living with him since January so I suppose there has been compromise. I keep the things I use a lot upstairs and the surplus stays downstairs. He shops for a million years and it is all in the basement.
He has cut back on that....
But about our personalities or selves, so far neither of us has complained.....
I do suppose that we must compromise when we live with someone and not everything can be our way all the time
You? Would you put away some of your shampoo, conditioner, body wash, and facial cleanser for him?
I think that as my wife and I have lived together and learned more about each other, we adjust on the fly without really noticing. Then we look back and realize how different we are than we were a year prior.
One thing that my wife changed in me was my wardrobe. I have no sense of style, and if wasn't shorts or T-shirts/sandals I was screwed! My wife has helped me pick a better dressing style, still casual but much nicer than before. Of course, the clothing is just one example.
As for her...well she was perfect to begin with, so no changes necessary!
I think that as my wife and I have lived together and learned more about each other, we adjust on the fly without really noticing. Then we look back and realize how different we are than we were a year prior.
One thing that my wife changed in me was my wardrobe. I have no sense of style, and if wasn't shorts or T-shirts/sandals I was screwed! My wife has helped me pick a better dressing style, still casual but much nicer than before. Of course, the clothing is just one example.
As for her...well she was perfect to begin with, so no changes necessary!
Thank you! Aww, I bet she would be happy to hear that!
My clothing has also changed. I couldn't be more comfortable in a t shirt and jeans, or a hoodie in the winter. I bet I could totally be on What not to Wear!
I have started wearing more girlie type things because it seems to me that he likes that, and I have taken his cue, and he does.
Thank you! Aww, I bet she would be happy to hear that!
My clothing has also changed. I couldn't be more comfortable in a t shirt and jeans, or a hoodie in the winter. I bet I could totally be on What not to Wear!
I have started wearing more girlie type things because it seems to me that he likes that, and I have taken his cue, and he does.
The compliments are nice too!
Every now and then I have a rare moment of clarity and remember to stop after work to buy a nice card or something like that. About a year ago I came pretty close to losing my wife when she developed a blood clot in her lung. She's only 25, so way too young for this! She was pregnant at the time. Thankfully she recovered and went on to deliver a healthy baby, who is now 6 months old. This is our third. She is an amazing mother and wife, and every once in a while I think back to last summer, and how close I came to losing her. Those are the days when I remember to stop and pick up something nice on my way home.
Every now and then I have a rare moment of clarity and remember to stop after work to buy a nice card or something like that. About a year ago I came pretty close to losing my wife when she developed a blood clot in her lung. She's only 25, so way too young for this! She was pregnant at the time. Thankfully she recovered and went on to deliver a healthy baby, who is now 6 months old. This is our third. She is an amazing mother and wife, and every once in a while I think back to last summer, and how close I came to losing her. Those are the days when I remember to stop and pick up something nice on my way home.
What an uplifting story. I am glad everyone came out of that healthy and well.... Bless your family..
I got to thinking about this today. I am the kind of person who does not wish to change people. I do believe that if a person thinks they need changing, then they are the decider of that. I do not go into a relationship trying to change anyone.
So, is there anything about you or anything that you do that your SO doesn't like, or would like you to change, and did you/would you?
My sweetie has never complained once about anything I do or anything about me....out loud. Not until July 4. He got out of the shower and said, "Do you know that you have 16 bottles of things in the shower?"
I had never really thought about it, but he was right, I did. So, we went into the bathroom and I explained to him my order on the use of all of the products.
I do use them all, but I don't suppose they all need to be in there... By the time he got home from work the next day, the number of bottles was down to 8.
Not a biggie, and not anything to get rid of me over, lol.
Flip side; he keeps all the food downstairs! He doesn't like things on the kitchen or bathroom counters and I am quite the opposite. You can probably tell by all of my products...
I have been living with him since January so I suppose there has been compromise. I keep the things I use a lot upstairs and the surplus stays downstairs. He shops for a million years and it is all in the basement.
He has cut back on that....
But about our personalities or selves, so far neither of us has complained.....
I do suppose that we must compromise when we live with someone and not everything can be our way all the time
You? Would you put away some of your shampoo, conditioner, body wash, and facial cleanser for him?
I think in any good relationship the two partners work to accomodate one another on those little things.
16 bottles in the shower would scream "major clutter" to me, lol, and I would not like it either.
I view this kind of thing as just altering personal habits for the sake of your partners comfort level - not asking them to change WHO they really are
I think in any good relationship the two partners work to accomodate one another on those little things.
16 bottles in the shower would scream "major clutter" to me, lol, and I would not like it either.
I view this kind of thing as just altering personal habits for the sake of your partners comfort level - not asking them to change WHO they really are
Loves he says he likes you already. Yep. I like to have a few things sitting on the bathroom and I found them gone......
Nope, it doesn't change who we are, just our habits. I think we work well together and are very accommodating.... I hope to be that way for many years to come......
I need to change my bra the under-wire is stabbing me.
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