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Ironic, coming from someone with the name Crabman. I can just picture some poor guy hopping around trying to stay engaged while a crab is latched onto his toe.
But please, no flopping down onto any logs. Then you risk impalement, all right: With a rusty nail!
lol My wife liked the outdoors. I normally wear the little water slipper thingies because the beaches up here are usually a rock/sand combo and there are also mussels which will cut the hell out of your feet. Cant say as a crab has ever latched on to a toe although the girl might like the extra vertical she was getting out of the hopping going on!
Get out now. I spent 28 years trying to help a man find some adventure. For 28 years and 2 children, it was always in bed under the covers after dark with the lights off don't make a sound. Enough! He was not willing to change ever. I was his first - and only until the divorce. He had little libido and no staying power and it was only going to get worse.
Another tale of warning. Holy smoke. I don't know how you lasted that long!
Back to the OP...
Regardless of what certain people on this thread might say, enjoying your sexuality does not make you a "nympho" (a sexist term right there), likely to cheat or be dishonest, or otherwise somehow bad or "crazy." Furthermore, sex is an extremely important part of a healthy romantic relationship or marriage. It is an expression of love and the desire to be together and please one another, even when it's what some might consider raunchy. We all have a right to our own pursuit of happiness, and if your partner does not, will not, or cannot do it for you, then you need to think about whether you want to spend years, maybe even the rest of your life, unsatisfied sexually. Annie's story just breaks my heart. It also makes me more than a little bit angry with her ex. I don't understand how someone can claim to love a partner and not want to at least try to please that partner sexually.
Even in the case of outlandish and paranoid "what ifs," were I an injured partner who could not perform sexually, I would completely understand if my relationship then became that of friends. I would give someone the option of leaving. I would never in a million years expect a healthy, virile man to forgo sex for the rest of his life because I couldn't have it, myself. That is beyond selfish and right on into cruelty.
Not to mention that messing around in a hot tub or on the beach is so 1970s. So, if that's the foreplay, does the actual sex take place on a beanbag chair? Don't forget the lava lamps to help set the mood!
Oh, wait. "To each their own..."
They still make hot tubs/jacuzzis. That's why you see them in ads for hotels (think Niagara Falls and Las Vegas). Consummation of the sexual act does not occur in the hot tub. There's a regular bed, a couch, a floor, etc. for that.
Sand dunes. About the sand issue... that's why Martha Stewart hawks blankets for K-Mart.
From what you have written about your boyfriend he is not as adventurous as you are and you seem to be putting a lot of pressure on him to "perform on demand". Perhaps you should have thought about the seriousness of this issue before you actually moved in together because I doubt you will hang in there much longer if your physical needs are not satisfied soon and often.
While I don't do the spanking (although I appreciate a nice ass-squeeze or light smack), I don't like it too "vanilla" either. My hubby thankfully has similar likes, but an ex boyfriend of mine basically was so bad, he was essentially masturbating into me, for lack of a better term. No new position, no foreplay or oral, etc...nothing. Eventually, we ended it, partly due to the sexual incompatibility, and partly because he was an ass.
I don't have any advice other than what has been said, good luck!
OK. A long time ago I was 23, and never met someone in that age group with ED. That is just not the norm . Has he seen a urologist? Isn't it amazing that this activity takes up about an hour or two a week and yet is so important to our well being? Sex is indeed a quality of life issue. It also evolves and is quite different for us from our late 20's to our middle 50's. The best years by far were our 40's. I've know women and men that only have sex a couple of times a year. Just kill me now, but that works for them. I don't think there has been enough honest dialog between you and your SO to determine what the issue really is, and until you discuss the core of the problem you will continue to be disappointed. Then there's always toys.
That's exactly what it is. It's not that I like being hurt. I like knowing that I can make someone that passionate that they are uninhibited and able to express themselves freely without Nicholas Sparks tainting everything about romance. There's a time and place for that - bit there's also a time where you say, i want rough sex where you show me how bad you want it
One thing my hubby doesn't do much anymore, since we're rarely sans kids for any length of time, are things like lifting me up on the kitchen table and HAVING to have me right then and there. Even after all our years together, I still love that.
Could be inexperience, could be his comfort level, could be his questioning his sexual orientation, could be his worry about ED so he needs to be quick, could also be just plain laziness and/or selfishness as he is getting his and doesn't care about yours. Talk, observe, and then decide. You're too young to live like this. I know how frustrating it is when you feel someone doesn't want to take care of you.
you put him down then expect him to perform. ok sound like a w o m a n. give the guy a break. at least he doesnot have aids to give you. enjoy life
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I can just picture some poor guy hopping around trying to stay engaged while a crab is latched onto his toe.
Is that like a hoar frost?
C-D won't allow the word that rhymes with it. 