Is it hard for a young adult man to tell a women they don't know that they are beautiful? (dating, sex)
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Some girls who are beautiful, don't know that they are beautiful and lack confidence in themselves. Sometimes women need to be complimented to feel good about themselves. Because not all beautiful women get complimented plenty of times. Even if a beautiful women already knew she was beautiful, wouldn't that make her vain and diminish her beauty?
If they don't know they are beautiful they have low self esteem.
I'm confident. It still hurts when someone calls you ugly.
The last time a guy called me beautiful (and gorgeous, for that matter) I said thank you and started a conversation. When he tried to slide his hand up the inside of my leg and I told him it was inappropriate and to stop, he then called me a name and told me I was fat anyway and left.
It's usually fairly easy to tell if someone is being genuine or not with their compliments. I find most men are not genuine, especially if they're telling me I'm gorgeous while staring at my boobs. If I'm not sure if he's being genuine, I will normally err on the not-genuine side.
Not me. They can call me ugly all that want because I know they are jeolous and I know I am handsome.
For me it would be analogous to being called Handsome or Cute. I can never decern if it's a generic comment or maybe something that Aunt Lucy or mom, or saying I'm warm for you?
Yup, so I assume they are just being "friendly" and say thanks and keep on going.
If you were really interested, I'd hope you'd pick a more clear line.
It's condescending, personally. I know what I look like and where I stand physically, it always seems that when compliments are given the guy just wants to butter you up to get you into bed. At least, that's been my experience.
AMEN to that! There's nothing wrong with a compliment here or there, as long as it's SINCERE. But guys who go on and on about a girl's looks completely turn me off. It just shows how shallow they are. Some girls apparently like endless compliments (from what some guys have told me), but I think those types of girls are either extremely narcississtic, or else seriously lacking self-esteem.
Depending on a man's personality type it might be difficult. I normally haven't done this. A few weeks ago I had a nice conversation with a women I didn't know. I did tell her she was very pretty. It took me out of my comfort zone to do it but I'm glad I did. She did seem flattered and I enjoyed gving her that ego/confidence boost. Maybe becuse we were talking/bonding the compliment meant more than if a guy at random just shouted at her that she's beautiful.
Depending on a man's personality type it might be difficult. I normally haven't done this. A few weeks ago I had a nice conversation with a women I didn't know. I did tell her she was very pretty. It took me out of my comfort zone to do it but I'm glad I did. She did seem flattered and I enjoyed gving her that ego/confidence boost. Maybe becuse we were talking/bonding the compliment meant more than if a guy at random just shouted at her that she's beautiful.
Really? So my tactic of shouting at strangers from across the street with a megaphone that they look gorgeous doesn't work?
Depending on a man's personality type it might be difficult. I normally haven't done this. A few weeks ago I had a nice conversation with a women I didn't know. I did tell her she was very pretty. It took me out of my comfort zone to do it but I'm glad I did. She did seem flattered and I enjoyed gving her that ego/confidence boost. Maybe becuse we were talking/bonding the compliment meant more than if a guy at random just shouted at her that she's beautiful.
Yes, I think this is an example of a normal interaction.
Not sure why people criticize and vilify the men who say it and the women who are flattered by it.
AMEN to that! There's nothing wrong with a compliment here or there, as long as it's SINCERE. But guys who go on and on about a girl's looks completely turn me off. It just shows how shallow they are. Some girls apparently like endless compliments (from what some guys have told me), but I think those types of girls are either extremely narcississtic, or else seriously lacking self-esteem.
The irony is women tend to compliment me and go on and on about my physical appearance despite my trying to redirect or shut it down.
For me it would be analogous to being called Handsome or Cute. I can never decern if it's a generic comment or maybe something that Aunt Lucy or mom, or saying I'm warm for you?
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Originally Posted by jade408
Yup, so I assume they are just being "friendly" and say thanks and keep on going.
If you were really interested, I'd hope you'd pick a more clear line.
More clear than saying "I'm warm for you"?
I guess it could be misconstrued that I have a fever.
I guess it could be misconstrued that I have a fever.
Well is it somewhere loud? I probably thought you said "it's warm in here."
I am on my phone, please forgive the typos.
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More clear than saying "I'm warm for you"? 
