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I've come to the conclusion that if I'm being so desperate to find a serious relationship and a serious guy (as I've mentioned in another post) then I should probably find a clingy guy.
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The problem is...how do I find one?its not like they have lables on their forehead saying "jerk" "player" "clingy""abusive" etc.
How and where can I find a clingy guy??do I just date everyone that offers and hope I win the lottery??
I think the words you are looking for are mature, loyal, honorable, etc.
What age group do you normally go for? I would try to find someone in their late 20's or early 30's. That age group as a whole might have more men ready to settle down.
Also, another sign that may be good is if he has had long term relationships in the past. This shows that he was ready to commit in the past, and was not just content to drift around.
I have no idea if this is actually true, but maybe a single guy with children might be more serious in the women he spends time with? His kids of course should come first in his life, but I doubt he has a lot of time to see many women (and some women won't date him b/c of his kids). If he's a good dad, he'll refrain from introducing you to his children until he is sure that you two are compatible. Obviously, you should like children for this option and be prepared for their needs to be more important. You'll probably be doing more family friendly activities with him.
Someone mentioned online dating, and meeting men who have a profile that projects responsibility. I think that is a great idea. Stable career, living on his own, established hobbies outside of drinking at bars are all positive signs.
One other thing....I wouldn't put off the vibe that you yourself are clingy. Develop your own life (if you haven't already) with hobbies and friends. You'll be a more interesting person and would be more attractive as a partner, and not just a friend with benefits.
Good luck, and remember, sometimes love comes around when you aren't looking for it.
EDIT: Do you have a dog? When I lived in Denver I took my dogs to the bark park on weekends and some mornings, and I met quite a few nice guys while our dogs played together. They generally gave off the vibe that they were responsible and able to care for something other than themselves.
Last edited by boolouwho; 11-08-2012 at 05:34 PM..
All jokes aside, and spare me the "you don't want that", clingy =stalker etc.
I've come to the conclusion that if I'm being so desperate to find a serious relationship and a serious guy (as I've mentioned in another post) then I should probably find a clingy guy.
'cause honestly?I have no problem with spending every available moment with my guy or being asked where I am all the time (of course as long as its out of worry...) or having a guy a little jealous...sure beats a guy who doesn't give a f*ck about me,how I'm doing or who I'm with.
And at least I know that a clingy guy will still be there in the morning when I wake up.
At least I'm not gonna have to worry and think "oh damn, I slept with him...now I'm DEFINITELY not gonna hear from him again.*bangs head against wall*
The problem is...how do I find one?its not like they have lables on their forehead saying "jerk" "player" "clingy""abusive" etc.
How and where can I find a clingy guy??do I just date everyone that offers and hope I win the lottery??
Don't believe everything that you read on the internet... You seem to be honest and real, quite different from many that post here... I laugh at what some of these people post, who do they fool besides themselves?...
Nothing wrong with what you are looking for as that is typically what a great relationship is about, being together... Actually wanting to be together, spend your life together being each others priority...
How to find one? Be yourself and keep your eyes open. Players are bold... Check out some of the quiet, shy type guys and you may be surprised... What they value is quite different than what players value... Let them know that you are easy to approach and talk to... Just because you talk to someone doesn't mean that you have to sleep with them...
Just don't have a set image of what you want as that would more accurately be described as what you 'think' you want... Be perceptive and be happy that we don't always get what we (think) want...
Think of the things that you like to do, and get involved with others of the same interest... Don't be ashamed of what you like. I guarantee that there are others with the same interest and you won't have to worry about phonies!
It would be interesting to advertise for one on a dating site. Take it seriously and interview prospects at a coffee place.
Don't feel odd, I understand what you're saying. So many guys seem to flake that you'd like to see if the opposite exists. They do. But in a good way. Don't give up.
OP : How are your looks? Only unattractive girls would do that.
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Now all this super team needs is a name.
k Both supporting and trying to redefine our labels pitifully at the same time.
