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My mother is an alcoholic and when I was a child she was both physically and verbally abusive Today, she is just verbally abusive, I am no contact with her for 3rd time in my adult life.
When I was younger, in my early 20's, I had some real anger issues, not at home, but at work. I had learned this behavior, it was awful living like that...full of anger and rage. I sought therapy and was able to get my anger under control, it is no longer an issue.
My brother doesn't have any anger issues, yet he is very insecure and just doesn't believe in himself, plus he has suffered with brief bouts of depression.
My point? We, all carry our childhood into adulthood. Your sister is in pain, and in turn, is a big pain in the butt to others.
My point? We, all carry our childhood into adulthood. Your sister is in pain, and in turn, is a big pain in the butt to others.
An interesting thought. I think that to some people, abuse is the norm. As hard as it is to imagine, to some people abusive relationships are just how relationships are. But I think some people know it's not normal, yet have a lot of bitterness about the past. Sort of a "this is how it was for me, and this is how it's going to be for those around me" attitude. We see this a lot in the military with hazing. I'm sure that bitterness like this is responsible for generational abuse in relationships as well.
oh heck ya. one girlfriend I had in the past was abused (verbally) by her parents. She was nice for the first 7 months or so and after that she was VISCOUS!!
I would never deal with a girl who doesn't have a good relationship with her family ever again.
Usually when a girl is abused, I heard she more likely gets involved into an abusive relationship (esp. one similar to her abusive father or another male figure), cheats, seeks unstabled relationships or feels disgusted at the thought of hurting another human being. Our father was very abusive just like his father was and it took years for our mother to divorced him but ever since then my sister had deep anger towards male figures. These were her exact words she told me one day ''I will control him before he controls me, I'm not like our mother who let him get away with it''.
Abused women oftentimes don't get into (long-standing) relationships.
They "walk" before the going gets hot and heavy. I've known several attractive women who have never really been in relationships for very long, effectively single for their entire lives. I've known some who, based on reports from people I know, also died surprisingly early.
oh heck ya. one girlfriend I had in the past was abused (verbally) by her parents. She was nice for the first 7 months or so and after that she was VISCOUS!!
I would never deal with a girl who doesn't have a good relationship with her family ever again.
"7 months"
Thats quite a while to be on best behavior. The sooner it comes out the better. I had a woman go nuts after just meeting her for a drink.
My parents were physically abusive. My first relationship was physically abusive. So I did turn abusive as a protection mechanism. I've grown out of that though. But I'm living proof that many people respond to their environment.
My parents were physically abusive. My first relationship was physically abusive. So I did turn abusive as a protection mechanism. I've grown out of that though. But I'm living proof that many people respond to their environment.
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