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I know. The more I read, the more it sounds like some porno fantasy a previously-banned member drew from to come back and be a douche, but hey, let it stand as an example for others, because there are indeed people who throw fits over the past, sexual or otherwise. That's the nature of insecurity.
Or current member.
Could have been better. He could have added that she snuck upstairs to service a couple of the Frat brothers while they were at the reunion
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Originally Posted by TiburonLoL
Holier-than-though?
Hmmm, Your writing style is very similar to the OP
I would wonder why I waited too.
What was it? A game of manipulation? A herpes outbreak? What?
Life isn't fair. We all should grow up and get over that one. Your feelings will get hurt, you will offend people and if you are lucky someday you will find someone that loves you from A-Z.
I would judge the males in the frat house just as I would the girl so...I don't really see a double standard unless you don't have that same standard yourself. No one told you that you have to accept men doing what they want or being with a ton of girls.
I don't think she waited to manipulate him. I think she waited because she really regretted her past behavior and she wanted to change by only sleeping with men who she really cares about and who care about her. It definitely not okay that she lied about her past when directly asked. But I do believe she could truly regret that time in her life and be a totally different person now. Not condoning the lying, but I can see why she did and of course look what happened when she told the truth. He judged her and dumped her.
I don't understand the mindset that if someone was once promiscuous, they always have to be promiscuous otherwise it isn't fair to their current partners.
Holier-than-though? The man was lied to by the woman he loved, he wasted 3 years of his time, love and money which could have been better spent on someone else. He has every right to be pissed off at her and he had every right to break up with her (I commend you on that OP).
It's obvious why he asked this question, please don't tell me you're that naive (why is every woman so naive?) He asked it because it's important to him, I assume she knew it was important, which is why she lied. If she was honest from the begging this whole mess could have been avoided. She could have found another man who would be comfortable with her past and he could have found another woman more suited towards his standards.
Here comes the home run, hitting this out of the ball park. I'm thanking the lord right now, that the women I'm sharing this thread with during my lecture break don't think like this.
Are you forgetting that she lied to him in the beginning? She wanted what was best for her, which she thought was him, so to get him she lied (WHICH IS SELFISH AND "EGO-CENTRIC", NOT TO MENTION COMPLETELY LACKING IN COMPASSION....) The fact that you women, are incapable of objectively and unbiasedly looking at a situation is simply pathetic. Relationships are built on trust and honest communication, without those things, you have nothing. Now, if they had been married for 15 years and this came up, I might have a different answer, but they aren't married and he has no obligations to kids or anything of that nature. He has the opportunity to break it off clean and learn how to look for deceptive behavior in the future.
You women are sticking up for her because you can relate with her. You are thinking about what YOU would want as a woman instead of looking at the situation from an objective perspective.
I still can't comprehend how you are still ripping on this guy and portraying the woman as the "victim."
Pretty spot on. Plus one. That's why I said that there were many hypocrites in this thread. I also think that those vehemently defending the girl in question were once if not still "very loose" themselves. That's not a knock on easy women either. It takes all kinds. I have had a lot of partners too. So, I can be called an easy man. But I was never that easy. However, she didn't just have fifty partners in her life. That was just in a four year span. The way this women sounds she could rival Wilt Chamberland for all any of us know anyway. And after all, it's already proven that she is a liar!
The bottom line is the op has every right to his opinion. Just as we all have certain things we look for in a mate. He is not wrong for having expectations or certain wants from a partner. WE ALL DO. That's where the hypocricy has become so apparent. Bashing the op because he was lied to. Really?? Once again, we live in a society where no one is to blame for their behavior. Rationalizaton and justification is at an all time high. I love how so many women jump to conclusions of why she did what she did. She was hurt, daddy issues, trust issues, needed attention (my favorite by the way). Come on she's an adult and is responsible for her behavior no matter what spin you want to put on it. Possibly, this is one of her consequences for being a wh re. She found a guy that she fell in love with only to lose him because of her past indiscretions/ behavior. Make that be a lesson to everyody (myself included) that no matter how hard we try, our past will most likely catch up to us at some point.
I guess I'm not a "real" man either. Because I would dump my girl in a New York minute if I found that out about her. Flame me all you want, because if you're flaming me about this, then your opinion doesn't even matter to me. I have my own expectations, wants from a women just like everyone else. And sleaping with over fifty frat guys for that matter in just four years is just down right nasty!
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Holier-than-though? The man was lied to by the woman he loved, he wasted 3 years of his time, love and money which could have been better spent on someone else. He has every right to be pissed off at her and he had every right to break up with her (I commend you on that OP).
Okay, Todd. How many accounts are you going to make?
And it's "holier-than-thou."
Again, no one says lying is acceptable. But we all know that's not what is upsetting you. Er, him. You're, er, he's just angry you--whoops, he--had to wait for a whopping two months before you--dang it, HE--got some.
I don't think she waited to manipulate him. I think she waited because she really regretted her past behavior and she wanted to change by only sleeping with men who she really cares about and who care about her. It definitely not okay that she lied about her past when directly asked. But I do believe she could truly regret that time in her life and be a totally different person now. Not condoning the lying, but I can see why she did and of course look what happened when she told the truth. He judged her and dumped her.
Lying is manipulation though. If she was at peace with regrets and a totally different person she would not of felt the need to lie. She probably got into that mess to belong and be accepted. She lied to belong and be accepted as his girlfriend. This type of personality trait that is so dependent on outside acceptance is playing with fire. I know what you are saying but she could of avoided all that and the worry of keeping skeletons in her closet if she was just honest from the get go. I just never understood why people bother with lying when it comes to LTR...eventually the truth of the past slips out somewhere. Especially if 50+ people already know about it.
Okay, Todd. How many accounts are you going to make?
And it's "holier-than-thou."
Again, no one says lying is acceptable. But we all know that's not what is upsetting you. Er, him. You're, er, he's just angry he had to wait for a whopping two months before you--dang it, HE--got some.
I don't think that that is the main issue. I think that is just quite puzzling to him. Rightfully so, you can rationalize it all you want, but it's deceitful and manipulative.
But I think the main issue is the getting with fifty frat boys in four years is the main issue. I wonder if the whole school knew about her. It must have been a tough four years. Then again, maybe not. Perhaps she doesn't care what those people thougth of her, but she sure cares what her ex thought of her. Atleast enough to lie about it. So on one specific level, she knew her behavior was to put it kindly in bad taste.
Pretty spot on. Plus one. That's why I said that there were many hypocrites in this thread. I also think that those vehemently defending the girl in question were once if not still "very loose" themselves.
So, are you the cowardly tool who sent me that rep?
And how nice of you to try to impugn and malign others. Sorry, kid, I also defend overweight people. That doesn't make me fat. I defend minorities. That doesn't make me black, Asian, or Latina. I defend homosexuals. That doesn't make me gay. And if you are that hung up on trying to assess every veteran member here, you might want to look at my posting history and see where I defend certain men. That doesn't make me male.
Hmmm, I was quoting Lilac when she said "Holier-than-thou?" simple typo with though
Silly of me to expect you to read a post and make simple connection though, right?
For a 4 post newbie you seem awfully famliar with the regulars. I'll bet your IP matches Todds?
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Your feelings will get hurt, you will offend people and if you are lucky someday you will find someone that loves you from A-Z. 
