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I'm not fond of alcohol, the taste, the unnecessary calories, no nutritional value, it's effects and the fact I'm an extreme lightweight. However, I'm not a prude. I will occasionally have red wine or a beer. On a first date I choose a club soda with a lime. (Nothing immature like a Shirly Temple, ect.) This seems to make many men (not all) uncomfortable and I can see the shift in their comfort level after I order. I explain the above to them concerning my stance on alcohol but don't care if they order something. I can only assume these men are very nervous, they are looking to get their dates drunk and/or are alcoholics themselves.
Are there any other assumptions men make about a first date, not drinking alcohol?
Who knows but I'm sure there will be plenty of responses. I see no reason why you should even offer an excuse or an explanation for not drinking alcohol on a date.
Next time get there early and order your club soda, your date will assume it is vodka or gin. Sit at the bar so you can order a refill if needed without saying what it is.
Next time get there early and order your club soda, your date will assume it is vodka or gin. Sit at the bar so you can order a refill if needed without saying what it is.
And then when the fella comes in and says "I'll have what she's having" it's just all fun and games from there. Heh.
I normal have a drink b4 the date so i can be relaxed and a girl will never know. Showing up drunk to a date is not a good idea IMO. If a girl told me she was not into drinking i would not drink in front of her but will have a drink b4 hand.
I'm not fond of alcohol, the taste, the unnecessary calories, no nutritional value, it's effects and the fact I'm an extreme lightweight. However, I'm not a prude. I will occasionally have red wine or a beer. On a first date I choose a club soda with a lime. (Nothing immature like a Shirly Temple, ect.) This seems to make many men (not all) uncomfortable and I can see the shift in their comfort level after I order. I explain the above to them concerning my stance on alcohol but don't care if they order something. I can only assume these men are very nervous, they are looking to get their dates drunk and/or are alcoholics themselves.
What this tells you is these aren't the guys for you. The ones for you won't even notice what you order. They'll be more into getting to know you. So don't let this faze you.
most men probably wouldn't have any kind of problem assuming you aren't the wrong kind of "doesn't drink"
personally, I may not even notice, if I did I'd probably comment but not really care
you not drinking would slightly disappoint me because the potential for the evening is much lower if you're not drinking
I'd probably still order whatever I want though
the wrong kind of doesn't drink is the kind that gets all preachy and judgemental about it and they talk about drinkers from their high horse of moral superiority
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Heh.
