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So at work one day, this woman i had my eye on gives me what I thought a blatant stare that looked like she was interested. Then a couple of days later, she sees me again and makes a point of saying hello to me in passing and smiles.
Then I see her in town. She was sitting at at an outdoor cafe with what looked like to be her sister or something because of the resemblance. I waved at her and smiled and she gave me a big smile and waved back. Up until this point we've never spoken to each other.
So the next day, in order to open a line of communication, I sent her a text on her phone (from the company cell phones we all have) and said it was nice to see her yesterday and I signed the text with my name and in parenthesis specified I was the guy that waved at her.
That was a couple of weeks ago. I got no reply and she barely acknowledges me now when I see her. So now I just ignore her. But seriously .. WTF? If she wasn't interested, I'd think she'd reply something like, "Nice to see you as well. Have a nice day" and I would have understood that to mean not to follow up. But no reply at all? I feel like such an idiot.
have you ever considered she just noticed you and her worked at the same place and she was being considerate by saying hello and not wanting to jump you bones?
have you ever considered she just noticed you and her worked at the same place and she was being considerate by saying hello and not wanting to jump you bones?
If that was the only thing, I'd agree. But to me the other two times we ran into each other she seemed interested. If those were not signals that she was interested, then I'm screwed. I guess I can't assume anything until she actually comes out and says something ..
My guess is that she enjoyed the idea of going out with you more than the reality. She might be in a Relationship or she might ultimately not like the idea of having a relationship with a co-worker. She probably did you a favor.
Although you overtly overplayed your hand with that text if she didn't overlook it, and she knew immediately you were dead interested....which may have scared her off since she works with you.
You did everything right, but it turned out she was just being friendly to you. That's the way it goes, sometimes. It's hard to tell what the intention is until you make a move like you did. And you found out the intention wasn't what you thought it was. Better luck next time. These things happen. Don't let it get you down.
edit: I guess the others think the texting (when she hadn't given you her number) was too direct too soon. Maybe next time if something similar happens, just chat with her, like: "Nice seeing you out and about the other day. Do you like that cafe? I've heard good things about it." Use it as a convo starter. Let things build gradually.
I thought about that. But there's nothing I can do about that now.
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