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You don't need to spill your guts or write poetry... but I ignore "Hi how are you" messages. I want to see something in an initial message that shows me you read my profile and are interested in me as a human being, not just that I'm female and you're looking for a potential booty call.
It doesn't have to be much -- make a reference to a book or a movie I listed as a favorite. Say something about one of my hobbies. If you can toss in a question that will help start a conversation, all the better.
Stuff like:
"I loved <book title>, it changed my life when I was in high school. I even wrote my senior thesis on it! Have you read <another book title>?"
"Skydiving, eh? I've never been but have always wanted to. Where would you recommend I go?"
"Loved the pic of you at the Eiffel Tower, what a great shot. Did you go to any museums while you were in Paris?"
"Oh, good, another Harry Potter fan! Which book was your favorite, and why? I think mine is Deathly Hallows, I really loved seeing Neville come into his own."
"I've never eaten Ethiopian food before, what's it like? What's your favorite thing to order?"
You know, it's an interesting point. I never thought of saying "hi" in online dating as similar to saying "hi" in public when you meet someone. I thought of more like a job where you see a job you are interested in and send a cover letter saying why you are interested and what you have to offer.
Maybe I've been to formal about things.
That's how it's supposed to be but it's so many stupid people online who don't realize that
You don't need to spill your guts or write poetry... but I ignore "Hi how are you" messages. I want to see something in an initial message that shows me you read my profile and are interested in me as a human being, not just that I'm female and you're looking for a potential booty call.
It doesn't have to be much -- make a reference to a book or a movie I listed as a favorite. Say something about one of my hobbies. If you can toss in a question that will help start a conversation, all the better.
Stuff like:
"I loved <book title>, it changed my life when I was in high school. I even wrote my senior thesis on it! Have you read <another book title>?"
"Skydiving, eh? I've never been but have always wanted to. Where would you recommend I go?"
"Loved the pic of you at the Eiffel Tower, what a great shot. Did you go to any museums while you were in Paris?"
"Oh, good, another Harry Potter fan! Which book was your favorite, and why? I think mine is Deathly Hallows, I really loved seeing Neville come into his own."
"I've never eaten Ethiopian food before, what's it like? What's your favorite thing to order?"
How hard is it to pick just one thing from my word-filled profile & say "I like that tv show, too"
-I mean, I'm not even asking for erudite conversation,
just some tiny inkling that the guy thinks we'd have anything in common.
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