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I'm not sure there's really a good "casual" way to bring it up before the first date. Even on the first date, I'm not sure -- sometimes dates will have conversations that lead in that direction, others don't. Definitely find a way to work it in by the 2nd or 3rd date. I will say that one advantage you have going for you is the fact that you're in your 30s and dating women of the same age, who are likely certain one way or the other of what they want and less likely to want to waste time, even if they don't "hear the clock ticking yet." It's possible the woman will also find a way to bring it up early for that reason as well. I know that my single friends who are now in their 30s are solidly in one camp or the other, and don't want to waste the time (or have their time wasted) by anyone who feels differently.
Hey all, been doing real well with my new life in Seattle the last 3 months since I moved and i've been on more dates I have in last few months then I have in years.
Some of the dates have gone better then others, but its been enjoyable and real opening to see maturity and life out look differences between women from their early 20's i've dated to the much more mature, strict and less flexible career oriented women in their 30's like me.
Anyway, for many personal reasons which I will not get into or waste time with explaining, I pretty much decided a few years ago and have cemented it this year that I will never have the desire and want to raise children and become a father. I"ll be turning 34 mid next year and plan on having a vasectomy to finalize my decision on this.
That being said, I need some input on how and when should I bring up my decision about not wanting children and my surgery while im seeing someone? I still haven't gotten a good feel of how "soon" I should bring it up and possibly not enjoy a new date at all if I bring it up during first meeting with someone. But im also worried about the upset and heartache of bringing it up too "late" in being in a relationship with a lady. Should I somehow bring the subject up in casual conversation before I even ask for phone number or would that be even worse then bringing it up later after a date or two?
Thoughts would be appreciated. And no, don't bother wasting internet bandwith trying to change/alter my mind, it won't work.
The first date. No point wasting each others time.
First, go get that vasectomy! Right now.
Why do so many guys on here say I'm planning on getting a vasectomy. Just do it!
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Because most people have a budget and can't afford an expensive surgery right away? Unless you wanna gift me a few thousand bucks for non insured surgery and considering iI'm not having sex with you, you have no reason to pressure me
Because most people have a budget and can't afford an expensive surgery right away? Unless you wanna gift me a few thousand bucks for non insured surgery and considering iI'm not having sex with you, you have no reason to pressure me
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