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Unless you have GOT to have biological kids of your own and she doesn't want any, marry her if you love her.
Sounds like you have a wonderful relationship. Why burden it with scenarios that may not happen?
You could get hit by a bus in a few years. Who knows?
I agree.
Life is short and it is hard to find someone that makes you feel as good as you two seem to make each other feel. Discuss this with her, but keep going! Unless you want to go on another **** run, there is nothing out there that you will likely enjoy greater as a single person than with a good partner.
About the kids…she's 40. How many women have kids when they're 40+? Don't rush a marriage for that. You can always adopt. Anyways, I'm sure she knows that's borderline irresponsible. Don't worry about the kids. What you SHOULD worry about is that you're probably in different stages in life. Also, remember that women age faster than men. So, if you are very much into her looks, consider that.
About the kids…she's 40. How many women have kids when they're 40+? Don't rush a marriage for that. You can always adopt. Anyways, I'm sure she knows that's borderline irresponsible. Don't worry about the kids. What you SHOULD worry about is that you're probably in different stages in life. Also, remember that women age faster than men. So, if you are very much into her looks, consider that.
I agreed up until the aging comment. We all age at the same rate. Some people, regardless of gender, age more gracefully than others.
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Unless you have GOT to have biological kids of your own and she doesn't want any, marry her if you love her.
Sounds like you have a wonderful relationship. Why burden it with scenarios that may not happen?
You could get hit by a bus in a few years. Who knows?
I'd say if he has any thoughts of potentially wanting children or if he even thinks that he might change his mind at some point - he should not have any serious thoughts about being with her. Marriage is not a requirement for two people who love each other either.
I don't see how her opinion may be of much relevance in this situation - he definitely won't be thinking of having a child with a 40 y/o woman unless they spent many years together prior to that and simply couldn't have children so they attempt alternative options because they are very, very connected and don't want to separate.
Hello. I am a 27 year old male never been married no kids. Im a good looking guy finding and dating beautiful women has never been a problem for me.
Last year I met a woman, 40 years old. Looks 30. Never married no kids. We fell in love quick. And im old enough to know it wasnt puppy love. We even took vacations together split it traveled hike. We were truly in love. Never did those things with a partner before.
Now that its been a year its crap or get off the pot and I need to marry this girl. But now I have cold feet. Not only am I only 27 so I would be giving up everything because I only want one successful marriage but we would have to have kids NOW because of her age. Also what happens when I am 35 years old and she will be 48. Wont that make me resent her?
I feel so terrible, I told her. But its so sad. She is such an amazing person if only she was 35 or I was 35. And now she may never have kids. I care for this person deeply but I feel like down the road it could turn ugly. Please help.
Reason I advise against such age gaps...Better to have a partner you can grow and develop with and share life experiences, and age together.....You can look young on the outside but the inside still 40... The next stage is Menopause for her, that a whole new ballgame, most grown men can't handily it...
What if is the big question......What if you end it and realize later on you still care ? What if you marry her and your really happy? I guess you really need to do some soul searching and figure out what you want.
About the kids…she's 40. How many women have kids when they're 40+? Don't rush a marriage for that. You can always adopt. Anyways, I'm sure she knows that's borderline irresponsible. Don't worry about the kids. What you SHOULD worry about is that you're probably in different stages in life. Also, remember that women age faster than men. So, if you are very much into her looks, consider that.
Blueocean,
Women age faster than men?
It's just so cute how men continue to tell themselves how great they look as they age.
Oh, well. I guess, if anything, women should take a page from the men's book in that regard.
It's just so cute how men continue to tell themselves how great they look as they age.
Oh, well. I guess, if anything, women should take a page from the men's book in that regard.
Women lose collagen in their skin faster than men do. It's unfortunate, but that's how it generally works.
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