My wife misses her ex....(a little too much) (man, love, cheating)
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Yikes. I think a direct and honest discussion is due. Since she is not given to passive aggressive behaviors, this could all be very subconscious for her. I have an ex who was very important to me in terms of my personal growth, but I would never want to get back with him. Yet sometimes a particular season of the year or maybe a certain scent will remind me of a particularly good time with him even 10 years later. I will be wistful and nostalgic for a few days, not for the relationship but for the person I was back then, the changes I was going through and the joyful moments that were evoked - I will sometimes retreat into sappy songs at the same time.
She may also be dealing with some depression or avoiding issues in your marriage by thinking back on this guy. Don't panic yet. Just talk to her about it and don't be afraid of the idea of couples therapy.
Girl, what are you doing? You broke up with the other guy FIVE YEARS AGO. What, can't handle the fact that maybe he moved on and is living well without you? Want some attention? Your husband isn't enough for you?
Let me guess: Mr. Five Years Ago told you to go jump in a lake, and now you're pining for him because to you it seems he apparently grew a spine, whereas your husband, in his patient understanding, is now the Nice Guy Doormat for you to step on and rub your dirt all over like a little sadist.
GROW UP.
Yours, Woman to Woman,
Lilac
Haha thanks for the backup. Only variation is she dumped him 5 years ago. She even showed me all the messages he sent (way back when) of him begging for her back. That's why I'm a little confused at this point, because your version would make more sense.
I think you need to talk to her about this in a non-confrontational way. Perhaps begin with, "What ever happened when you contacted SoandSo? How do you feel about it? Was it Painful to you? Did it dredge up old memories? I know he was important to you, but you're important to me and I'd like to be there for you. Is there anything I can do to make you feel better? etc." Then if I were you I'd step up my game just a bit and give her more TLC because she's obviously trying to deal with this on her own and is having limited success. This is your time to shine and show her you are the man of her dreams, love of her life, and the one who will have her back no matter what. Every woman wants that no matter what they say. You can be so wonderful that the guy from the past fades into the past again. You can do this.
Girl, what are you doing? You broke up with the other guy FIVE YEARS AGO. What, can't handle the fact that maybe he moved on and is living well without you? Want some attention? Your husband isn't enough for you?
Let me guess: Mr. Five Years Ago told you to go jump in a lake, and now you're pining for him because to you it seems he apparently grew a spine, whereas your husband, in his patient understanding, is now the Nice Guy Doormat for you to step on and rub your dirt all over like a little sadist.
GROW UP.
Yours, Woman to Woman,
Lilac
why is she contacting a dude from 5 years ago?? He probably knew how to lay the "pipe"... OP needs to man up and give her the D.
Haha thanks for the backup. Only variation is she dumped him 5 years ago. She even showed me all the messages he sent (way back when) of him begging for her back. That's why I'm a little confused at this point, because your version would make more sense.
She saved his messages?! Up to now? Texts? Wow. Dude, sorry to say you obviously are a rebound guy. Gosh if I were you I would be soooo pissed.
I am surprised you haven't flip yet. And if she showed me his messages I would say... IT IS NONE OF MY BUSINESS! AND WHY ARE YOU SHOWING IT TO ME? Ego trip?
I forgot if you have kids or not. Your wife is nuts. And she is disrespecting you dude. You better TELL her to stop this nonsense. And if you don't have kids hurry up and impregnate her, ASAP!
That will give her something to do. She is nuts your wife. I am telling you.
Tell her you have an ex gf you feel apologetic about and start watching some lost love movies when she's around like nobody's business...
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