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I think it is very important for people to have time alone. Like you I lived alone for a long time, then I met this guy and we got married within 4 months. I went from living completely alone to being married, moving to the other end of the state and getting pregnant in 5 months. I had my 3 sons the first 7 years of marriage. It wasn't always easy but I tried to get as much time alone as I could, albeit not a lot of time. That might mean a hot bath alone, going food shopping alone, or working in the yard alone. It is very normal and healthy to want some time for yourself, and that means your boyfriend as well.
There is nothing wrong with wanting "me time". I like to go off and have quality time with myself several times a week. I think my husband enjoys doing his own thing as well. Although we are retired, he has a part time job, and he also has a workshop with projects going.
If you are feeling claustrophobic for only a few days a week, you might have a hard time being with him 24/7. You just have to give it time and see how it goes. Maybe you will need to keep the arrangement you have now, instead of moving in together.
Everyone should have alone time. It is required for sanity.
That being said, I know I am with the right person when their constant presence does not bother me.
Yeah, I have never been the person who felt that, "I need this person to go away for a while, or I'll go nuts." Alone time is valued in and of itself, not because time with other people (in particular my spouse) drives me crazy. If I frequently feel like another person's presence drives me crazy, I know I'm not with the right person.
The only time I tend to feel truly claustrophobic around people is when I'm forced to spend a lot of time, through circumstance, with people who I just don't care for. When I'm with people of my choosing, I'm fine. Other people's presence does not generally annoy me unless the people themselves are ones I find annoying.
I think that each person needs alone time. In fact, I encouraged my SO to go do whatever he wanted on his days off (when I still had to work) and even on weekends when I was around. But, when I said, "Go do whatever you want," I didn't mean his co-worker.
And thankfully - in my own experience at least - guys don't typically get worried about their partner(s) spending time away from them WITH other people either.
Indeed. Experiences vary. And age, stability of the relationship, the nature of the relationship between the married woman and her friend(s), will all factor in as well.
But in any case, I haven't heard of any man having a problem with their wife/girlfriend having plain ol' alone time.
YES!! It makes me appreciate him more when we get apart time. I will say after even a day I'm missing the hubs and pup a lot.
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