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I’ve lived alone for over 20 years. I’ve never had a husband, live-in boyfriend, roommate or family member live with me. I’m in the very first relationship wheremarriage might be a possibility. I ‘m at my BF’s apartment 3 to 4 days a week,which was pretty hard to get used to at first, because I’m so used to being by myself.
Here’s the deal, my sweet boyfriend left the apartment for awhile to go to the office and then to spend time with his son for Father’s Day.He was only gone for about 2.5 hours, but it was sooooo nice having theapartment to myself for a while. I feel bad about this, but I loved it. I took a long hot shower,washed/conditioned/flat ironed my hair. I sat on the couch and watched JewelryTelevision. I even got a little bit of cleaning done. I really liked the solitude.It was just like the old days. I feel bad, but I wished that he would have taken a little bit more time out. Don’tget me wrong. I’m sure that I would have started missing him in about 8 hoursor so, but it was just nice having a little time alone.
I think he might be “the one”, but I’m quite introverted andneed time alone from time to time. I don’t feel overwhelmed right now because I do spend 3-4 days a week at my own apartment,but if I marry him, I’m a little anxious about how I can ask for alone timewithout making him feel like I don’t want to be with him. He’s really sweet helikes being with me. I like being with him too, I just like it when he leavessometimes, so I can have some alone time.
If you are a married woman, do you enjoy spending time alone even though you love your man dearly?
I have always enjoyed "alone time", even when I was married (maybe especially when I was married!)
I just spent the entire weekend alone and enjoyed every moment. I think you need to let him know that you need some alone time and that it's not a reflection on him or your relationship. Although alone time when you live together is much more difficult to get!
I was married... I "need" alone time. Luckily I got it... unluckily it's because my ex was cheating on me with men, lol.
Joking aside, alone time is important for introverts like us. It doesn't mean you don't love a person, it just means you need your time.
But I've always though, man it would be nice to find a man who likes to hunt, fish, play golf, work on cars, go riding on a bike, go out drinking with buddies or something so I can have alone time. Does your boyfriend have any hobbies like that? Is there a way to encourage him to go out more?
Another option that doesn't require him to change his schedule is for you to get up early or stay up late.
If you are a married woman, do you enjoy spending time alone even though you love your man dearly?
Of course! I've been with my husband for more than 20 years, and I get antsy if I don't have some alone time. In my house, there is such a thing as "too much together time". I need about 2-3 hours a day of alone time to stay sane.
I’ve lived alone for over 20 years. I’ve never had a husband, live-in boyfriend, roommate or family member live with me. I’m in the very first relationship wheremarriage might be a possibility. I ‘m at my BF’s apartment 3 to 4 days a week,which was pretty hard to get used to at first, because I’m so used to being by myself.
Here’s the deal, my sweet boyfriend left the apartment for awhile to go to the office and then to spend time with his son for Father’s Day.He was only gone for about 2.5 hours, but it was sooooo nice having theapartment to myself for a while. I feel bad about this, but I loved it. I took a long hot shower,washed/conditioned/flat ironed my hair. I sat on the couch and watched JewelryTelevision. I even got a little bit of cleaning done. I really liked the solitude.It was just like the old days. I feel bad, but I wished that he would have taken a little bit more time out. Don’tget me wrong. I’m sure that I would have started missing him in about 8 hoursor so, but it was just nice having a little time alone.
I think he might be “the one”, but I’m quite introverted andneed time alone from time to time. I don’t feel overwhelmed right now because I do spend 3-4 days a week at my own apartment,but if I marry him, I’m a little anxious about how I can ask for alone timewithout making him feel like I don’t want to be with him. He’s really sweet helikes being with me. I like being with him too, I just like it when he leavessometimes, so I can have some alone time.
If you are a married woman, do you enjoy spending time alone even though you love your man dearly?
It's nice to hear there are women out there who are not clingy and needy.
If he loves you he will respect your alone time.
"Where is your wife?"
"She's taking time out for herself."
Everyone should have alone time.
I feel like you except I'm with a needy, clingy extroverted person.
I would discuss this with him and see how he feels. He might be hurrying home because that's what he thinks you want.
You don't sound overly enthusiastic about this relationship. You said it was "soooooo nice having the apartment to yourself" and that you "loved" your alone time when he was gone for 2 hours and wished it could have been longer.
You sound happier being alone so why would you contemplate marriage under those circumstances? It's not fair to him or you. Keep dating for now until you like your time spent with him as much as you like your time without him.
Yes it is OK to still want alone time. I get home from work before my wife and look forward to my 1.5 hours of being alone. When she goes on vacation with her sisters, I look forward to that too, but I am just not obvious about it. LOL
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