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I hear ya! The women who I know who are financially supporting men are black though. lol One works a lot, but she only wants her husband to do chores around the house. I think she's afraid he'd cheat if he had a job. Another has a good job and her husband doesn't, so he stays home and takes care of their kid. Another is almost 60 and I think she's just afraid to be alone so she lets her boyfriend live with her although he has no job/income.
But yeah, not for me.
Yup no thanks! There are some men out there who want to use some sort of psuedo-femininism logic to cover up the fact they are too lazy to support themselves! I have met a few of these. They seem to say stuff like "you are a liberated lady, why don't you buy me a drink!"
Yeah, I'm just saying that even though I don't like that mindset, I can't change it. Yes, I've complained about it before and was told that I'm not going to change the minds of men. So that's that.
You will definitely not change everyone's perspective. But at least you're aware of how it's a flawed mindset to feel entitled to anything that has not been earned, so to speak. By earned, I mean getting to know that person, building up trust within that person, and building a relationship with that person that goes beyond just hooking up.
Entitlement? No, but I find that the people who pay apparently think I am worth treating so I go with it! I am not going to turn down free stuff!
I feel like some of you guys haven't really found anyone you feel like is worth treating special!
Of course. Who in their right mind would turn down free stuff? If you decide that a man is not worth seeing again because they take you up on an offer to split the bill (especially on a first date where they may be meeting you for the first time), that is a feeling of entitlement. Just as it's a sense of entitlement if a guy thinks that by buying you dinner or going on a date with you, he is owed sex. That is the very definition of entitlement.
Yup no thanks! There are some men out there who want to use some sort of psuedo-femininism logic to cover up the fact they are too lazy to support themselves! I have met a few of these. They seem to say stuff like "you are a liberated lady, why don't you buy me a drink!"
You should tell them "sure right after you go make me a sandwich".
Of course. Who in their right mind would turn down free stuff? If you decide that a man is not worth seeing again because they take you up on an offer to split the bill (especially on a first date where they may be meeting you for the first time), that is a feeling of entitlement. Just as it's a sense of entitlement if a guy thinks that by buying you dinner or going on a date with you, he is owed sex. That is the very definition of entitlement.
Are you equating a $10 coffee and pie to sexual intercourse with the inherent risk of among other things STD's, pregnancy and 18 years of child support? Just wondering.
Are you equating a $10 coffee and pie to sexual intercourse with the inherent risk of among other things STD's, pregnancy and 18 years of child support? Just wondering.
Any form of entitlement. Let's stick with making out for the sake of this argument. If I pay for your meal, am I entitled to a make-out session?
*Not that women are supposed to be submissive. But there is always a "leader" in every relationship,and that person usually likes to plan and pay for outings. And I want to be inclusive. Anyway let's think of it as two roles, the planner and the goer. The planner typically pays and the goer accompanies.
Interesting
I have always dated guys who are willing to pay for dates. But I always offer to pay my share. So paying for dates has never been an issue for me.
This is not politically correct for me to say, but I do find guys who pay for dates more attractive.
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. You would think that a guy who makes 200k a year and has 2 mil in the bank would pick up the tab when dating almost everytime
