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I find, approaching a group of women (especially all friends) a tad intimidating. It only takes the disapproval of one of the friends and you're chances drop dramatically. A man is better off having a buddy in this situation.
When I was in my 20s/early 30s, I went to bars with girlfriends frequently. Maybe there would be two of us, maybe 4 or 5, depending on the situation. I was regularly approached by guys, and I'm sure my friends were, too. A guy approaching one woman in a busy bar didn't need to worry about impressing the entire group. Everyone had their own conversations going with each other or other bar patrons. From reading the Relationship forum (since this issue has been mentioned in other threads), it sounds as though either times have changed, or guys are just far bigger wussies these days. Thank goodness dudes had the balls to approach in my bar days!
Blame the feminist movement. Militant feminists have liberalized and wussified many "men" these days into submission and fear.
So are there any tips we can give those dudes brave enough to enter into shark infested waters or is it a simple just don't do it. Granted I've even seen good-looking dudes get the quick cold shoulder from large groups of women. Agreed, a solid wing-man can be a terrific asset at times.
I mean if it is a group of attractive women I think a lot of guys would simply kick themselves at the end of the night for never saying anything. I know I do lol.
Blame the feminist movement. Militant feminists have liberalized and wussified many "men" these days into submission and fear.
There have always been shy guys. Always. And there have always been wing-men, buddies who support the shy guy and boost his confidence. Guys who are too shy to participate in the mating game are like women who are too shy to participate; they need to get over it. Women are more likely to seek counseling for shyness. It's time men did, too.
I find, approaching a group of women (especially all friends) a tad intimidating. It only takes the disapproval of one of the friends and you're chances drop dramatically. A man is better off having a buddy in this situation.
Don't most guys go to bars or clubs with a buddy or two, anyway?
There have always been shy guys. Always. And there have always been wing-men, buddies who support the shy guy and boost his confidence. Guys who are too shy to participate in the mating game are like women who are too shy to participate; they need to get over it. Women are more likely to seek counseling for shyness. It's time men did, too.
Get over it? Clearly you don't understand shyness. When people are shy, they're like that forever. You say they need counseling? Shyness isn't a disease, it's someone's personality.
Don't most guys go to bars or clubs with a buddy or two, anyway?
Of course, but after a beer or two and the conversation begins to turn stale I assume many guys would be interested in mingling with members of the opposite sex. I know many guys go to the bar to watch the game and hang-out, but meeting women is usually (though not always) part of the unspoken equation.
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yep. But I'll never do it again.
