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Well, maybe for the top percent of dudes. I'm 43 yo and never been approached at a store. Rarely at all.
I am not in the top percent, I'm 44, 6ft5 average build own a small 2 bedroom house and live paycheck to paycheck. I get approached or flirted with from time to time, just not by women who want something serious, usually they turn out to be married and cheating(which I have no interest in) or basically looking for FWB but dont want to be tied down(where were these women when i was 19), I want more than that.
What I'm concerned about is why people who do not find the poly lifestyle attractive are labeled all sorts of negative things by more "enlightened" individuals. )
This happened to me, a couple of times, online dating sites. A couple of men contacted me and asked if I was interested in being the third, with their wives/ girlfriends. I responded, no thanks, I'm not interested in a poly relationship. They replied back something to the effect "An open relationship can be great..." etc.
One guy in particular wrote a few sentences about it. "Every relationship you've ever been in up to now hasn't worked out, right? Don't dismiss an open relationship out of hand. Are you afraid? Open relationships come in many flavors, don't just say no without trying it!"
I sent a message back, something like "Again thank you for your interest, and again no thanks. I've experienced many relationship flavors in my life - some vanilla, some chocolate, some pistachio, and some rocky road. Don't take my disinterest as naivete."
Just frustrated because its one more thing telling me that what I seek is no longer really sought by others. this kinda realization sucks and I have been basically tol on this forum and others that my idea of an ideal relationship is out dated. but there are things I can budge on when it comes to a mate like these things Dont wamt to become a playa because I feel that a sex life is best with one partner who is only sharing that part of herself with me and I with her, but I do have needs so I do what I have to do during the mean time at points where I cant take it anymore, but for me one night stands and FWB is like trying to fix a gunshot wound with a band-aid, better than nothing but not what I need.
I think this is a gross overreaction. Monogamous relationships are still very much the norm.
Because many of us are capable loving more than one person romantically. It can be a beautiful thing if it works, but I'd imagine that it takes a lot of hard work. I see nothing wrong with it.
I am not in the top percent, I'm 44, 6ft5 average build own a small 2 bedroom house and live paycheck to paycheck. I get approached or flirted with from time to time, just not by women who want something serious, usually they turn out to be married and cheating(which I have no interest in) or basically looking for FWB but dont want to be tied down(where were these women when i was 19), I want more than that.
"Hi I'm not in the top percent, I'm just your average super hot well built guy who's really tall, owns his own home, can relate to the struggle of the average American, and actually WANTS a relationship."
I'm not sure why you are single but it's certainly not because you're not attractive.
"Hi I'm not in the top percent, I'm just your average super hot well built guy who's really tall, owns his own home, can relate to the struggle of the average American, and actually WANTS a relationship."
I'm not sure why you are single but it's certainly not because you're not attractive.
LOL I have not been well built since I was 25(15 - 24 had the body of a Greek statue), and my house is a 60 year old 2 bedroom on the outskirts of the hood. infact I had an otherwise good relationship end because the woman did not want to live in my house she wanted me to sell my house and we move to a nicer area, I said it would not make sense to sell a house that's paid for to have a mortgage or rent, especially since it would be just us(her kids were grown and moved out).
As far as being attractive, I dont think I'm ugly, but I'm not "The Rock" either.
I think I'm a 6 maybe 7 on a good day, and if not for the height I'd be a 5 (since according to dating site forums being over 6ft2 gives you an extra point lol).
LOL I have not been well built since I was 25(15 - 24 had the body of a Greek statue), and my house is a 60 year old 2 bedroom on the outskirts of the hood. infact I had an otherwise good relationship end because the woman did not want to live in my house she wanted me to sell my house and we move to a nicer area, I said it would not make sense to sell a house that's paid for to have a mortgage or rent, especially since it would be just us(her kids were grown and moved out).
As far as being attractive, I dont think I'm ugly, but I'm not "The Rock" either.
I think I'm a 6 maybe 7 on a good day, and if not for the height I'd be a 5 (since according to dating site forums being over 6ft2 gives you an extra point lol).
60 year old houses on the outskirts of the hood go for like $300k in my city, minimum.
What region do you live in? It must be the west coast. I can't imagine you having trouble dating around here.
60 year old houses on the outskirts of the hood go for like $300k in my city, minimum.
What region do you live in? It must be the west coast. I can't imagine you having trouble dating around here.
LOL wow mine was valued at 15K, my yearly taxes range from $500 - $700 the highest I paid was $1,400 about 10 years ago, I know a guy who said his old house in LA was the same size as mine, and he sold it for enough to buy two 4-bedroom houses here. property values must be super inflated out west.
I live in texas the DFW area.
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