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Old 08-08-2015, 09:31 AM
 
Location: Everywhere and Nowhere
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The only past relationship that matters is the ex with whom you share children. I applaud those with enough decency and respect to not serve their exes on a silver platter for any woman/man who wish to know the details. I would not want to be in a relationship with a man who tells me the intimate details about his past relationships because he will do the same to me. Total deal breaker. Would you want your ex(es) talking like this behind your back?
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Old 08-08-2015, 09:33 AM
 
Location: I'm around here someplace :)
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Define really awful?
First things that come to mind, examples:
crimes-against-persons (wife-beating, child abuse)
contracted and has an STD
In other words, things a person should- but likely wouldn't- be 'honest' about: things from 'the past' that could affect the new person in 'the present.'
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Old 08-08-2015, 10:19 AM
 
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The only past relationship that matters is the ex with whom you share children. I applaud those with enough decency and respect to not serve their exes on a silver platter for any woman/man who wish to know the details. I would not want to be in a relationship with a man who tells me the intimate details about his past relationships because he will do the same to me. Total deal breaker. Would you want your ex(es) talking like this behind your back?
SING IT! Really.

"I was married. We were friends who should have stayed friends and we parted as friends. I dated other people and it's a good thing we broke up or I wouldn't be here with you." Smile pretty, end of discussion.
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Old 08-08-2015, 10:25 AM
 
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Only thing that should be discussed would be if someone had an std. Or lets say recovering from alcohol or drug addiction. Short of that no ones business how many partners and various other questions.
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Old 08-08-2015, 10:32 AM
 
Location: california
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My husband and I never discussed past relationships, even well into the first decade into our marriage.

Not sure why or how the subject kinda came up, but it did in pieces....sort of the last 10 years

We've been married about 25 years now

None of us cared that much, the past is the past. So no, it is not a red flag
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Old 08-08-2015, 10:33 AM
 
Location: california
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Only thing that should be discussed would be if someone had an std. Or lets say recovering from alcohol or drug addiction. Short of that no ones business how many partners and various other questions.
what he/she said^^
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Old 11-09-2015, 03:19 PM
 
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Won't tell anything? Have you guys been dating long?

You ask him a question like how long was your last relationship...... and nada?
I'm actually the guy.
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Old 11-09-2015, 03:32 PM
 
Location: on a big rock hurling through space
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No way! Why should I care about his ex? It's ME he's now spending time with. I actually get very irritated when guys go into details about their exes. All I care about is if they're single and disease free.
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Old 11-09-2015, 03:45 PM
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Location: Phoenix,AZ
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Dating recently, and one of the first questions I ask is: "How long have you been divorced?" (if applicable)

If the answer is less than a year, I don't take the gal seriously. I'm not your rebound guy. Waste of time.

And I'm not being pretentious about this either. Because I was on the rebound shortly after my divorce. I'm very clear on the mindset.

Anything else is none of my damn business.
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Old 11-09-2015, 04:05 PM
 
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Depends. In normal relationships, over time, stories about past relationships will come up. Is someone specifically hides those, it is a giant red flag.
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