Why are men made to feel ashamed concerning escorts? (woman, older, family)
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In many parts of the world visiting working girls ins't a problem, its actually embraced, or at least not demonized..
I can't help but to feel a bit confused...... be feel a little bit stigmatized... not for the typical reasons, but for ego reasons, my ego can't help but to feel little a little sad.... it's sad to me, sad that I had to pay a woman, a woman couldn't be with me unless I paid for her time, how lame am I if I can't get a woman to simply hang out with me... I have to pay her, she doesn't want anyting to do with me unless I hand over some cash
How lame is that, I mean when you lay it out and really think about it... a woman wouldn't be with me unless I paid her money........ she wouldn't be wilth me unless I paid her money.....
Think about that when you're pounding your chest about how macho you are.... she wouldn't be there unless you paid her.....
Let that resonate with our local chest thumpers a bit.....
IMO, it's not much different than a gold digg'n girlfriend or a woman that's with you based on your financial status (just no commitment).
I've never payed cash straight out for tail (I also think it's kinda sad, too) but I also understand the power of testosterone; it's as strong as the power of money.
Last edited by hawaiiancoconut; 11-09-2015 at 05:39 AM..
From a woman's perspective, there's just a grossness to it.
I mean, I'm pretty progressive, and I get all the arguments for legalizing it. Ostensibly, legalization would cut down on sex trafficking, allow regulation and ensure safer practices (as well as more safety for sex workers), and lift the U.S. out of its Puritanical beliefs about sex a bit. Yet there's still that sense of ickiness that I'd feel if I knew that a guy I was with had been with an escort.
I know escorts are typically higher end, but like Chowhound said, there's the whole payment element to it: that someone had to pay a person to be with them.
There's also the stereotype of the type of guys that typically turn to escorts: married men who aren't getting any (or their wives won't do "certain things), lonely virgins who just want to lose their virginity, or men of high powered status, married or single, who want discretion. Since I don't date any of those types of men and date just regular, average men, I would wonder how a man I was dating ended up soliciting the services of an escort and why.
It's an emotional thing that has no basis in logical thinking, and I know that, but it is what it is.
Also, because it's an illegal industry, there's no guarantee that he used protection and therefore a greater chance of disease. Or at least that perception.
FWIW, no one can make you feel anything, ashamed or otherwise.
I have to pay her, she doesn't want anyting to do with me unless I hand over some cash
How lame is that, I mean when you lay it out and really think about it... a woman wouldn't be with me unless I paid her money........ she wouldn't be wilth me unless I paid her money.....
Think about that when you're pounding your chest about how macho you are.... she wouldn't be there unless you paid her.....
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This ^^^ is the predominant reason.
It is seen as a lesser choice when the "prevailing methods" don't work, which extrapolates to "something wrong with you."
I am a very attractive and tall man and I use escorts because it's easier and more convenient for me than dating.
Every escort I've [mod cut] in the past year has told me that I'm pretty and asked me why am I seeing them when I could easily get a girl the normal way?
And I just tell them that it's easier and less time wasted this way.
I am good friends with all of the escorts that I've seen and they even give me freebies from time to time.
No shame at all.
Last edited by PJSaturn; 11-21-2015 at 01:15 PM..
Reason: Inappropriate language.
It's certainly not my game and have no need for it but I agree that certain fellas are not attractive to women so kinda have to go down that route which in away it's sad really.
I think hcoconut is spot on about feeling ashamed it's more them allowing themselves to feel that way about the wholething, I've recently found out that a bloke I used to know from the pubs and clubs has " fallen " for an escort and is now in major debt because of it that's something that he should be ashamed off!.
I am a very attractive and tall man and I use escorts because it's easier and more convenient for me than dating.
Every escort I've ever [snip] in the past year has told me that I'm pretty and asked me why am I seeing them when I could easily get a girl the normal way?
And I just tell them that it's easier and less time wasted this way.
I am good friends with all of the escorts that I've seen and they even give me freebies from time to time.
No shame at all.
Mate that's like first time I went to a strip club at 17 and I was certain they ALL " liked me "
How bloody naive can a bloke be! They want your £££!!!! At least I had an excuse as I was only 17 what's yours mate??
In my opinion it is likely the ****/stud double standard bit in back on males. Guys masculinity is seemingly tied into being sexually successful and having to a pay a gal in order to have sex suggests you are highly undesirable and something is wrong with you. To me it is little different than the shaming gals seem to get for sleeping around so I'm all for male shaming of escort usage. Tit for tat to me.
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