Why don't more women have compassion on shy men (nice, interest, rejection)
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Just a note to shy guys everywhere: When a woman takes the chance and the initiative to reach out to you, at least have the decency to respond - even if it's just to say no thank you.
Just a note to shy guys everywhere: When a woman takes the chance and the initiative to reach out to you, at least have the decency to respond - even if it's just to say no thank you.
A lot of women don't respond when a man shows his interests, why is a man expected to do it? Last woman who tried talking to me I ignored her because I wasn't interested. I don't owe her a response. She picked up on it and moved on. If someone likes you you're not obligated to even talk to them. Sorry not sorry.
If someone likes you you're not obligated to even talk to them. Sorry not sorry.
But if someone comes up to you in person and says "hello" and you don't even acknowledge them, even to say, "sorry, I'm busy/not interested/not available/whatever," then you're being rude. If they're being pushy you can be brusque, but if they're just being polite and trying to converse, ignoring someone who is standing right in front of you is displaying real social impairment.
Last edited by fleetiebelle; 12-05-2015 at 03:20 PM..
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But if someone comes up to you in person and says "hello" and you don't even acknowledge them, even to say, "sorry, I'm busy/not interested/not available/whatever," then you're being rude. If they're being pushy you can be brusque, but if they're just being polite and trying to converse, ignoring someone who is standing right in front of you is displaying real social impairment.
49ers has a point though. Women are never given the amount of over this topic that men are given. No one ever calls them out for not responding to a message.
49ers has a point though. Women are never given the amount of over this topic that men are given. No one ever calls them out for not responding to a message.
My statement was gender-neutral--it applies to everyone. Yeah, you don't owe a stranger much of your time, and it doesn't apply in a situation like street harassment, but not acknowledging someone who's talking directly to you with decent intentions is rude.
My statement was gender-neutral--it applies to everyone. Yeah, you don't owe a stranger much of your time, and it doesn't apply in a situation like street harassment, but not acknowledging someone who's talking directly to you with decent intentions is rude.
I'm not sure what's going on anymore, but seems like basic manners appears to be lacking. I was just at the grocery store and some lady asked me about one of my shopping bags, I politely answered her, no harm no foul, what am I supposed to do give her some of this
Just a note to shy guys everywhere: When a woman takes the chance and the initiative to reach out to you, at least have the decency to respond - even if it's just to say no thank you.
Perhaps we would, if they did it in a, lets say, more obvious way!
All those subtles hints.... I hate it.
Often you do not even know what she is doing. It is really hard to figure it out. Sometime its a flirt, sometimes its just a friendly gesture.
A lot of women don't respond when a man shows his interests, why is a man expected to do it? Last woman who tried talking to me I ignored her because I wasn't interested. I don't owe her a response. She picked up on it and moved on. If someone likes you you're not obligated to even talk to them. Sorry not sorry.
Thats pretty bad.
Just ignoring people shows a lack or respect or a lack or good conduct.
BTW: it goes both ways, not just a man is expected to answer, a woman as well. Its called common courtesy.
Just be nice to people rather than being a jackass.
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My statement was gender-neutral--it applies to everyone. Yeah, you don't owe a stranger much of your time, and it doesn't apply in a situation like street harassment, but not acknowledging someone who's talking directly to you with decent intentions is rude.
Say gender-neutral all you want. That does not change that men are treated FAR more harshly on this topic than woman are.
49ers has a point though. Women are never given the amount of over this topic that men are given. No one ever calls them out for not responding to a message.
I've seen women called out on stuff like this.
Don't forget this was a discussion about men (needing compassion) by a guy.
Never could figure out what he meant.... a sympathy date? a hug?
Anytime you start complaining that you want a whole gender to change to make you feel better you're on shaky ground.
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over this topic that men are given. No one ever calls them out for not responding to a message.
