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I'm 22 year old female, with a nice job, and live in Atlanta.
I recently moved into a shared apartment, and I think I'm ready to a long term committed relationship. I haven't been having much luck finding men who want to settle down. I'm trying to target 26/27 year old professional men with a steady job (like me, not a gold digger).
where do you suggest I start looking?
I'm involved with some church activities currently, but haven't had much luck there.
Are there any meetups in your area?
I'm not from ATL, but I know that most church goers are women.
Men in the 21-30 age group (myself included) don't really go to church, unless dragged there.
I'll agree with the previous poster that single men in their 20s are not big church goers.
I would say that you should keep going to church if you'd like to find a guy 25-30 who would be up for an LTR. Although the quantity might not be there, the ones that you might find there have the potential to be what you are looking for.
Are there any sports that you like to play? Join an organized sports league. Doesn't really matter which one, but I wouldn't start with a new sport just for the point of meeting men. Soccer, volleyball, and softball are good options. You could also take group tennis lessons. Kickball is a pretty common activity but kind of a silly one IMO.
Avoid bars and sites/apps. Meetup groups are an option because you'll find a plethora of men there. However, you'll be meeting a lot of loser guys who are STEM workers with marginal social skills and can't find any girls to date them. Probably best to avoid Meetup.
What's your existing social circle look like? That's a good place to start.
Avoid bars and sites/apps. Meetup groups are an option because you'll find a plethora of men there. However, you'll be meeting a lot of loser guys who are STEM workers with marginal social skills and can't find any girls to date them. Probably best to avoid Meetup.
What's your existing social circle look like? That's a good place to start.
Damn, dude!
That sounds a bit personal. Could it be that we usually spend 50+ hours at work, hence the issues with our love life?
Contrary to popular beliefs, you need a certain amount of social skills to succeed in STEM. In case you didn't know, we aren't creating products to play with at home. We are building things for clients who typically don't even know what they want at the beginning.
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Are you in a mega church? That gives you by far more opportunity for what you are looking for. BTW, mid-late 20s men, like me, are less religious than ever before, for good reason.
22 is too young to think about settling down...my humble opinion... have fun for a few more yrs, late 20's is a good time to think about that stuff.
I agree.
I don't think you should just sleep around or anything - but just get out there, meet people, date and see where things take you. Just let things happen organically. Don't put that kind of pressure on a relationship yet. You probably haven't had a whole lot of experience yet. Take this time to learn about yourself, learn about getting to know people, figuring out what's right for you, etc.
Damn, dude!
That sounds a bit personal. Could it be that we usually spend 50+ hours at work, hence the issues with our love life?
Contrary to popular beliefs, you need a certain amount of social skills to succeed in STEM. In case you didn't know, we aren't creating products to play with at home. We are building things for clients who typically don't even know what they want at the beginning.
While I personally have great respect for what workers in STEM occupations do with their work time, a lot of the guys in STEM occupations are not known to be suave men with tons of female demand. At Meetup events, the sheer force of them have a repellent effect upon the potentially attractive women who might consider Meetup as an option. When a woman goes out to a Meetup event (typically one of those generic social groups that have their events at bars) and gets hit on by a bunch of guys she's not attracted to (essentially swarmed all night by guys she perceives as nerdy/dorky/geeky), and maybe 1-2 guys she deems passable, she's not going to want to go out to future events. This reduces the quality of the pool for the passable guys. This phenomenon occurs in a lot of Meetup groups. Bad gender ratios and non-quality looking women.
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I agree.
I don't think you should just sleep around or anything - but just get out there, meet people, date and see where things take you. Just let things happen organically. Don't put that kind of pressure on a relationship yet. You probably haven't had a whole lot of experience yet. Take this time to learn about yourself, learn about getting to know people, figuring out what's right for you, etc.
I don't perceive this as helpful advice. Even in this era of delayed marriage, the top quality women are receiving marriage proposals by age 25. Men place a high value on female youthfulness. Her market value peaks now, so she should be making the most of her peak. If she uses her peak years to put forth a concerted effort to lock down a quality guy long term, she's ahead of girls who are dilly-dallying around with the early to mid 20s, then find themselves pushing 30 and find it harder to compete with the younger women for the elite men. Some of these women begrudgingly settle for a more plain guy and are not happy. In those situations, they often end up having affairs. I like her mentality and I think her mentality should serve her well. The key for her is putting forth a plan into action.
I'm 22 year old female, with a nice job, and live in Atlanta.
I recently moved into a shared apartment, and I think I'm ready to a long term committed relationship. I haven't been having much luck finding men who want to settle down. I'm trying to target 26/27 year old professional men with a steady job (like me, not a gold digger).
where do you suggest I start looking?
I'm involved with some church activities currently, but haven't had much luck there.
What church do you go to? Go to Buckhead Church and find a small group. Meetup groups are hit or miss. But if you like the outdoors, you could join a hiking meetup. Lots of singles. Also, if you like sports, there's tons of co-ed leagues. Even if you don't like sports, its more of a social thing anyway. If you have a dog, take it for a walk at a park like Piedmont Park. Just some initial thoughts. Atlanta is a great place for singles and dating and I miss it so much.
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