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I don't think there's any need to come out as anything at this point. Your sex life is your own and you don't owe it to anyone to reveal it if you are not ready or don't want to. My uncle is in his 60s and either bi or gay, and he is deeply in the closet. He probably always will be as long as my grandparents are alive, maybe even afterward. I'm bi and married; my family has no idea, and it's doubtful I will ever tell them. I hope your friend is not pressuring you to come out if you aren't sure--I'm wondering about the "tutoring" bit of what you said. You also said you are only attracted to him, not guys in general. Sexuality is a tricky thing, not so cut and dry as many people portray. Take your time with your feelings.
I hope your friend is not pressuring you to come out if you aren't sure--I'm wondering about the "tutoring" bit of what you said. You also said you are only attracted to him, not guys in general.
No he is not pressuring me.He has more experience with sexuality in general so he explains from his perspective how things are.Bear in mind that we have known each other for many years and while he was always upfront about his feelings towards me (even while i was in the relationship with my ex gf) I only developed feelings about him after we had sex.Generally we have some mind-blowing sex and I experience stuff that I never thought I would so it is very interesting both sexually but most importantly emotionally as I feel very good around him.It helps that we were good friends for many years before entering to this relationship.Anyhow yes I dont feel sexual attraction to other guys.I know this for a fact.It's just him.I know it doesnt make a lot of sense but again I dont care to explain this.I just want to enjoy it while it lasts...
It's been now more than two weeks that we are together together and we are practically inseparable.People,my family,my friends will start to wonder eventually.My mom for example has already asked If I am seeing another girl now that I am broken up with my ex gf...I feel some pressure about it and generally I am an honest person.I dont want to hide how I feel and I know I feel very strongly about him.Tbh I think I have never experienced so strong feelings for anyone in my life.The more I get to know him as a boyfriend the more I go nuts about him...
Btw I did an online search to see if there are other people who have experienced this kind of thing and I found a term called ''biromantic heterosexual''.I think it sums it up pretty good for me.
You actually want to tell all your family /friends/co-workers that you are having sex with a guy?
I'm not seeing the point of this revelation.
It's not about the sex.It's all about the feelings I have for him.
Ok let me explain this as much as possible bsc I think some people cant exactly understand what I am talking about.I have been friends with him close to a decade.He was always a guy that I admired a lot.Very outgoing with excellent social skills and a wicked sense of humor.I always valued these qualities in him while we were friends.He is active with extreme sports etc and he has a very alluring personality.I remember tons of girls would fall for him before they knew he was gay.Anyhow I always felt very comfortable around him.He had a relationship with a guy for 4 years and they seemed very devoted to each other.In fact I remember that I always felt a bit jealous with how balanced relationship they had.My relationship with my ex gf on the other hand was always antagonistic and a source of tension and stress for me some times.With him I feel there is an overwhelming sense of maturity and stability.
Sexually I feel next to nothing for men in general.In fact I am heavy in straight and lesbian porn and generally I am not aroused with gay porn for example.I know for a fact that men do not arouse me sexually.With him though it is very different.The feelings I have developed make me want to give my body to him because I can see how happy it makes him which in turn is also very pleasing for me.Bear in mind that I have been very sexually active with women and I have tried a lot of different things sexually so there is definitely some kink inside me which I guess kinda helps me function sexually with him but its not about the sex with him.
Like I said after our first sexual experience I started developing serious feelings for him.I feel very relaxed when I am around him.I miss him when he is not around and I cant wait to talk to him when we are apart.His personality has totally fascinated and captivated me after getting closer the past few weeks.The more I get to know him as a partner the more I feel in love with him.He is very compassionate , emotionally available,an excellent debater and very intelligent.When he told me that he is also in love with me (in fact he told me he was in love with me for a long time) I was like spaced out for a whole day.I havent felt like this with my ex gf for example.She was making me feel insecure most of the times and when she would be emotionally available it would not last for long which in turn made me arrogant and cold around her.Anyhow there is no comparison.With him it is as if I feel I can spend the rest of my life and be extremely devoted.Like I said I have never ever in my life felt like this for ANYONE.It has totally taken me by surprise bsc I never thought I could develop so strong feelings for another dude.But the feelings I have for him are so overwhelming that I just do not care about the fact he is a guy.
Does any of it make sense?That's the best I can describe it...
It's not about the sex.It's all about the feelings I have for him.
Ok let me explain this as much as possible bsc I think some people cant exactly understand what I am talking about.I have been friends with him close to a decade.He was always a guy that I admired a lot.Very outgoing with excellent social skills and a wicked sense of humor.I always valued these qualities in him while we were friends.He is active with extreme sports etc and he has a very alluring personality.I remember tons of girls would fall for him before they knew he was gay.Anyhow I always felt very comfortable around him.He had a relationship with a guy for 4 years and they seemed very devoted to each other.In fact I remember that I always felt a bit jealous with how balanced relationship they had.My relationship with my ex gf on the other hand was always antagonistic and a source of tension and stress for me some times.With him I feel there is an overwhelming sense of maturity and stability.
Sexually I feel next to nothing for men in general.In fact I am heavy in straight and lesbian porn and generally I am not aroused with gay porn for example.I know for a fact that men do not arouse me sexually.With him though it is very different.The feelings I have developed make me want to give my body to him because I can see how happy it makes him which in turn is also very pleasing for me.Bear in mind that I have been very sexually active with women and I have tried a lot of different things sexually so there is definitely some kink inside me which I guess kinda helps me function sexually with him but its not about the sex with him.
Like I said after our first sexual experience I started developing serious feelings for him.I feel very relaxed when I am around him.I miss him when he is not around and I cant wait to talk to him when we are apart.His personality has totally fascinated and captivated me after getting closer the past few weeks.The more I get to know him as a partner the more I feel in love with him.He is very compassionate , emotionally available,an excellent debater and very intelligent.When he told me that he is also in love with me (in fact he told me he was in love with me for a long time) I was like spaced out for a whole day.I havent felt like this with my ex gf for example.She was making me feel insecure most of the times and when she would be emotionally available it would not last for long which in turn made me arrogant and cold around her.Anyhow there is no comparison.With him it is as if I feel I can spend the rest of my life and be extremely devoted.Like I said I have never ever in my life felt like this for ANYONE.It has totally taken me by surprise bsc I never thought I could develop so strong feelings for another dude.But the feelings I have for him are so overwhelming that I just do not care about the fact he is a guy.
Does any of it make sense?That's the best I can describe it...
Sounds like it could be love. There's no need for a big revelation right now, though, is there??
Where do things stand with you and the dude? Are y'all together?
I'm not doubting you're feelings for this guy and i'm sure he's a wonderful guy i just dont see the need to broadcast to every one in your family and social circles that you are having a bi-sexual relationship, what point are you trying to make by revealing your current relationship.?
I think we (society) will be seeing more of this as stigma around homosexuality breaks down and people begin to realize that sexuality it is a wide and diverse continuum. Thank goodness my parents will not live to see it!
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