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What do you believe from both sides of the men and women do you think makes the dating world hard today in terms of dating, hook ups , marriages, stable relationships? Why has it been hard to find a permanent stable relationship in your opinion?
In my opinion, many have already been through several long term relations, divorces, child custody battles or been cheated on many times, causing the person to be damaged.
Myself included. It has made me overly protective of my heart and I now chew men up and spit them out at the first indication of not fitting into my life perfectly. I don't depend on a man for my lifestyle so it allows me to be picky in what I will deal with. But looking around, I see lots of damaged 28-50 year olds that have the same stories to share.
When has it ever been "easy" to find someone compatible enough to spend one's entire life with?
The OP's question was about dating. Dating does not necessarily mean finding someone compatible enough to spend one's entire life with, in fact it frequently does not. Going in with such an expectation seems unrealistic to me and part of the problem.
The OP's question was about dating. Dating does not necessarily mean finding someone compatible enough to spend one's entire life with, in fact it frequently does not. Going in with such an expectation seems unrealistic to me and part of the problem.
But that's all the one, isn't it? It isn't really isn't easy to find someone compatible for "just" dating either. Generally people make a decision relatively early on - yes, I'd like to see where this goes; who knows, maybe all the way or: no, I don't want to see this person again - I'd better tell him quick so he doesn't get the wrong idea or think I'm just dating him for the free Olive Garden endless breadsticks or whatever. Another failed date, another no, another disappointment, moving along to the next guy who is likely as not (more likely than not, actually, by the numbers) another failed date, another disappointment and moving along...lather, rinse, repeat.
That's hard as well. There will be many many many many people you KNOW you don't want to keep seeing/continue to date long-term, and very very few people you'll want to keep going on with and perhaps going the distance, if your aim is something of a permanent nature.
It will still involve a whole lot of "nos" before you get one "yes" from both sides.
What do you believe from both sides of the men and women do you think makes the dating world hard today in terms of dating, hook ups , marriages, stable relationships? Why has it been hard to find a permanent stable relationship in your opinion?
Instant gratification, worrying about what others think and unrealistic expectations.
I think the main reason why dating is so much harder especially for men these days is because of social media sites like facebook where I've witnessed a good number of average-looking and even below average-looking women being told by so many people (mostly other women) that they are "beautiful" and "gorgeous."
Many of those deluded women then walk around thinking that they deserve a "gorgeous" guy.
Men have always been less picky in that we will settle for/date a woman who is not our ideal type. Not saying that there aren't men out there who aren't the same as the women I mentioned but men in most cases will settle for what we can get.
Women? Not so much. It seems like a lot of women these days think that they deserve the total package even if they don't have a lot to offer in return. Even a lot of single mothers these days seem to think they're all that and that a man would be lucky to have her and her kid/kids from another guy in his life.
It's a sense of entitlement for both women and men but a lot moreso women and the unrealistic expectations that many seem to have especially from sites like facebook that makes it very hard to date in today's society.
I think many people are impatient now and they want it as soon as possible. Relationships take patience and awhile to form.
/\This 100 x over!
You want a relationship, you need to realize that it takes time for a relationship to build and blossom. Whatever happened to courting? You meet someone - online or otherwise - you go on a couple of dates, chemistry may develop. Okay, so you continue...second date, third date...meanwhile, as the chemistry develops (and I'm speaking as a man, from a man's POV), you're in the courting process. You're not in a committed relationship (yet) - at this stage, you're not even sleeping together yet - but as you're getting to know her as a good woman, she's screening you and trying to establish assurance that you're not a "drive-by", or a "f her and forget her" type of guy.
Too many people have forgotten that time and only time will determine relationship status! If you otherwise just want a woman for the Bedroom Olympics, go find an escort!
You want a relationship, you need to realize that it takes time for a relationship to build and blossom. Whatever happened to courting? You meet someone - online or otherwise - you go on a couple of dates, chemistry may develop. Okay, so you continue...second date, third date...meanwhile, as the chemistry develops (and I'm speaking as a man, from a man's POV), you're in the courting process. You're not in a committed relationship (yet) - at this stage, you're not even sleeping together yet - but as you're getting to know her as a good woman, she's screening you and trying to establish assurance that you're not a "drive-by", or a "f her and forget her" type of guy.
Too many people have forgotten that time and only time will determine relationship status! If you otherwise just want a woman for the Bedroom Olympics, go find an escort!
I agree overall mate
However yes some blokes might get written off as only wanting one thing and unfairly in some cases , but it's usually the way THEY behaved/portray themselves that make a woman think that......
So in hindsight it's the blokes fault more often than not if you see what I mean mate?.
However yes some blokes might get written off as only wanting one thing and unfairly in some cases , but it's usually the way THEY behaved/portray themselves that make a woman think that......
So in hindsight it's the blokes fault more often than not if you see what I mean mate?.
It's funny how somw posters blame one gender over the other. It says a lot about them.
It's funny how somw posters blame one gender over the other. It says a lot about them.
Nail on the head mate
I'm starting to think that mirrors are extinct now? Or a thing of the past perhaps?...... Honestly I think just by looking in one would be the answer to a persons dating problems.....
Would it not? LOL
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