Why don't women approach men to talk to? (spouse, dating, love)

[stanley-88888888]

Originally Posted by 2kCity33

in a hypothetical world...both men and women would approach without fail and being shamed for it.

also...guys might pick and choose...yes, but the woman ultimately and usually makes the final choice. so, the woman generally has most of the power there.

men are more powerful.

women should ignore imaginary social constructs and approach when they feel like.

i think we are complaining that the approachee has the power to embaress the approacher.

[TJenkins602]

Originally Posted by stanley-88888888

men are more powerful.

women should ignore imaginary social constructs and approach when they feel like.

i think we are complaining that the approachee has the power to embaress the approacher.

That person could try...

It just makes the approachee look bad in most cases...

[stanley-88888888]

^ simply saying 'youre not my type' is embarrassing to the approacher.

[mishigas73]

Originally Posted by stanley-88888888

^ simply saying 'youre not my type' is embarrassing to the approacher.

If something like that from a complete stranger is going to be embarrassing, then the "approacher" probably shouldn't be approaching strangers.

[TJenkins602]

Originally Posted by stanley-88888888

^ simply saying 'youre not my type' is embarrassing to the approacher.

Wow...

You're gonna hear a lot of that when you approach women. (Women that approach hear this from guys too, I'm sure).

Just take it to mean that you are not a match for her and she is not a match for you.

[Auraliea]

Originally Posted by mishigas73

If something like that from a complete stranger is going to be embarrassing, then the "approacher" probably shouldn't be approaching strangers.

Exactly.

If the person "lieds" and ended up dating another....they would be labeled "foul."

Guess you have to pick your poison.

Any sensible human being should know they are not everyone's cup of tea. If someone can't accept that, then the problem lies within the "approacher."

[NewYorker11356]

Originally Posted by TJenkins602

Wow...

You're gonna hear a lot of that when you approach women. (Women that approach hear this from guys too, I'm sure).

Just take it to mean that you are not a match for her and she is not a match for you.

Not entirely true.

Someone may feel a person is a match for them, but the other person not feeling the same for them. Happens all the time.

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by timberline742

Not true at all. Those women can approach, and with OLD, they often do.

Of course they do, even IRL, but then they're in the same position as the guys who get turned down; they'll get turned down more often than not, unless they pick a really shy guy. It still points to the fact that women don't have "all the power" that some guys ascribe to them.

[stanley-88888888]

maybe embarrass is the wrong word.
rejection feels bad (especially when you take time to think of something clever under pressure).
not the fault of the approachee (in fact its good they arent wasting your time).

[TJenkins602]

Originally Posted by NewYorker11356

Not entirely true.

Someone may feel a person is a match for them, but the other person not feeling the same for them. Happens all the time.

Whether that person feels it or not, they are not a match for each other. I takes two to make a match in dating and relationships.

For instance, I want to be with someone named Jada. I feel she is a match for me. But she does not want to be with me. (She does not feel that we are a match)

Therefore, we are not a match.

Just because I feel a certain person is a match does not mean that she is. My feelings are thus probably not accurate. The other person's feelings factor into it.