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time in the hope of achieving god knows what or become a dancing monkey spouting unfunny jokes one after because someone else on the internet told him that women like men who make them laugh (hint- women laugh at men they already like, not vice versa).
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So you're saying it's wheter or not she finds him physically attractive which I agree with
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To say nice shoes to a girl has nothing to do with what's on their feet, but what's inside their bra. Nice shoes in other words means "nice breasts".
While women do approach, it is still expected that the men be the go getter so to speak. And for men that do get approached by women (the top 20%...whatever ), it could have a crippling effect because the man may come to expect that and then if for some reason that stops... he'd really have to adjust.
I have approached a few more girls recently and the result is always the same - they all have someone. It is amazing how few good looking single women there are. Yet there are seem to be so many single men that are really attractive, taking care of themselves, work out, have good jobs... I just don't get it.
I suppose one theory why women don't approach men is because they don't really have to. Unless they are significantly overweight and/or unattractive. In which case they wouldn't approach anyone either due to lack of confidence.
I have approached a few more girls recently and the result is always the same - they all have someone. It is amazing how few good looking single women there are. Yet there are seem to be so many single men that are really attractive, taking care of themselves, work out, have good jobs... I just don't get it.
Could be a few things. One is location. All locations play a part. What works for one person, will be another person Kryptonite. Depending on where they are, and how well that works for what they're looking for.
Probably also case of bias. You aren't interested in men. So for what you see as attractive in your own gender may not be overall impressive to other who are interested and looking in that group -and dependingon what counts for attractive with them. Thus, standards for the group / sex you're looking to date in will be higher.
Example, I am the opposite to you. I am a woman who sees more attractive, and decently-dressed, women. The men are the ones who look sloppy and unimpressive.
Lots of very cute girls with less than well put-together guys.
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and this could be the problem. Don't try to be clever when meeting someone. That could really add to the sting of rejection (No matter what the rejecting person says). The more pressure you put on yourself, the more rejection may hurt.
That's probably a big part of the problem some people have. They build it up in their heads so much that it's devastating when they get turned down (politely, even.)
Real rejection is someone you've been dating for a while saying that they're not sure that they ever really loved you. A stranger not wanting to get a drink with you sometime? That's no big loss.
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That's probably a big part of the problem some people have. They build it up in their heads so much that it's devastating when they get turned down (politely, even.)
Real rejection is someone you've been dating for a while saying that they're not sure that they ever really loved you. A stranger not wanting to get a drink with you sometime? That's no big loss.
Totally, getting dumped after even just a few months is a blow. These people know you, and they're rejecting you.
They don't know me? I can always say "their loss" and move on easily enough.
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), it could have a crippling effect because the man may come to expect that and then if for some reason that stops... he'd really have to adjust.
