Should I date a guy who treats me poorly and doesn't find me attractive? (dating, boyfriend)
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So I've been talking to a guy online who tells me that I'm not objectively attractive, but he's willing to date me because he has low standards and he's lonely. Normally any person with an ounce of self respect would say no, but the thing is, his parents are rich and he's offering me to spoil me if I date him. Now I'm REALLY strapped for cash and could use the extra money. Not only is he offering me money if I meet him, but he promised to take me on expensive vacations, trips, shopping sprees, and rent out luxurious 5 star hotels and restaurants for us. I'm so poor I've never even been to a real restaurant in my life. When he talks to me about the decadent rich people food he eats, I'm confused since I've never even heard about those foods.
He says he doesn't care about looks and cares more about personality and how he's treated. Basically I'll just have to treat him like a king then I'll get rewarded for it, but I'm not sure if it's worth it. I'm not even sure if he can follow through with his promises. Even while talking online he's shown that he has a short fuse and anger issues, so I wouldn't feel exactly physically safe with him either.
But I'm still considering it. I mean I know I'm not attractive. Guys don't approach me and never hit on me. I never get any boyfriend offers from men, especially not rich men who can give me what I desperately need: money. So compounded with my need for money, I'm also deprived of love, attention, and self esteem.
Is there really anything bad about dating a guy you don't like and vice versa for the money? I think about it this way: you get disrespected at a low wage job (think manual labor) by your supervisors, people outside of work treat you worse once they find out you have a crappy job, you lose dignity, AND you have to wake up to an alarm and perform back breaking, grueling work for hours on end. With this rich guy, I can get paid and experience a taste of the rich lifestyle just for cuddling with him and lying on my back. That sounds like a better deal to me, but I don't know. I've never done it before.
Does anyone have any experience with this? Thoughts?
I had a job once where I would drive women to houses and then go inside the house and make sure it was safe and then have the customer sign a release.
Anyway, you know, why not? You know where you stand. You can be honest with yourself. I say, go with the money and travel. No reason you guys can't be friends. Just don't get attached.
You guys can just go as friends. No problem. There are ways you can make him jealous. You're female. Just summon that power without sinking the ship.
Plenty of people would, money talks and u will probably enjoy it.
Its a concern about some of the things he has told u though. I say go ahead and do it. But if he keeps treating u poorly, end it after one date. Money and doing fun things with money is a pleasure. Being treated poorly by someone, no-one "should" put up with.
Ive never been an escort/hooker. I'm just not that good looking :*(. LOl
Lol same. This is the only time I'll get a chance to date a rich guy basically. I know the relationship won't last, we'll just be together for a few weeks (as a ldr) that's when he'll take me on nice trips and give me a bunch of new life experiences, while he gets companionship and sex in return. Think of it as a temp job.
He wants a woman to like him for his looks and who he is, but it's hard to like a guy who calls you fat, stupid, ugly to your face. so obviously I'll have to fake attraction. I don't know though because sometimes he calls me hot and beautiful and he's attracted to me. This guy is confusing, I still don't know what his motives are honestly.
I'm so unsure about this whole thing. He does seem like the abusive type after all. My feelings and instincts say no but my near empty bank account says yes.
Plenty of people would, money talks and u will probably enjoy it.
Its a concern about some of the things he has told u though. I say go ahead and do it. But if he keeps treating u poorly, end it after one date. Money and doing fun things with money is a pleasure. Being treated poorly by someone, no-one "should" put up with.
I definitely agree. Money talks. But it's only an online relationship right now, I'll have to go to a different state where I know no one. It's all in USA so it's fine I can easily go back to my home state, I'm still kinda nervous.
Lol same. This is the only time I'll get a chance to date a rich guy basically. I know the relationship won't last, we'll just be together for a few weeks (as a ldr) that's when he'll take me on nice trips and give me a bunch of new life experiences, while he gets companionship and sex in return. Think of it as a temp job.
He wants a woman to like him for his looks and who he is, but it's hard to like a guy who calls you fat, stupid, ugly to your face. so obviously I'll have to fake attraction. I don't know though because sometimes he calls me hot and beautiful and he's attracted to me. This guy is confusing, I still don't know what his motives are honestly.
I'm so unsure about this whole thing. He does seem like the abusive type after all. My feelings and instincts say no but my near empty bank account says yes.
Interesting he claims he cares nothing about looks, yet calls you fat, stupid, ugly, hot and beautiful.
Id rethink this. Your first exotic getaway might be to South America- where a healthy organ on the black market can go a lot of money, LOl.
I definitely agree. Money talks. But it's only an online relationship right now, I'll have to go to a different state where I know no one. It's all in USA so it's fine I can easily go back to my home state, I'm still kinda nervous.
Well TBH I'd be careful.
I'm not a poor guy, or a wealthy guy (somewhere in the middle). But if I were rich, I wouldnt choose a girl I'm not attracted to, to wine and dine.
It seems a bit sketchy! usually the rich guys have lots of options.
I'm not a poor guy, or a wealthy guy (somewhere in the middle). But if I were rich, I wouldnt choose a girl I'm not attracted to, to wine and dine.
It seems a bit sketchy! usually the rich guys have lots of options.
Well only his dad is rich, but his dad gives him his own credit card and a lot of cash. He's a virgin at a late age, he has a hard time connecting with people especially women. He has mental problems but so do I, so I don't care.
Funny, my brother used the exact word "sketchy" to describe this situation and warned me not to talk to this guy. But... we've been talking for more than a year and he really wants to be my boyfriend for some reason.
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