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.. if I've ever been poor and desperate for money, and I have, I just had to work a second job for awhile until I found one that paid better. If that makes people look down on you OP, or disrespect you, as you said, it's certainly better than selling your soul.
Exactly.
There's a saying, OP: When you sell in desperation, you sell cheap.
If you don't even believe that you have more worth than this, then you will walk into disastrous situtions.
Stop fooling around with this idiot, who may not even be anything he's told you. Get your head on straight and do the right thing.
Basically, you are going to risk your life for expensive food and a promise of money that is not his? What happens when his "rich" dad doesn't give him his money or credit card? He told you that he doesn't have money. You are on a fantasy trip, right?
I don't remember all the foods but they were expensive. I remember because he took pictures and the receipt was hundreds of dollars. I know he's legitimately rich (his parents are).
He took pictures of the receipt? What a class act. You should be more worried about being scammed, yourself. You've never met this person. Is this guy who he says he is, or has he just concocted a weird sex slave fantasy?
If you don't even believe that you have more worth than this, then you will walk into disastrous situtions.
Stop fooling around with this idiot, who may not even be anything he's told you. Get your head on straight and do the right thing.
Work for it. Stop "falling for it."
He's all about status and materialistic things. Showing off and bragging about the things he has and yet he would like a girlfriend he finds unattractive.... that's strange, and makes no sense. There are plenty of very attractive women who are dumb and desperate also. So his purpose in pursuing one he finds unattractive for a year, would be what?
He doesn't plan on showing her off to anyone, bragging about her? I think he might just make her disappear.
I don't believe I would have been able to finish the conversation with somebody who let me know they didn't find me attractive, let alone be reminded of this for a year.
I guess I would just talk to my local Police Dept and see if they're interested in knowing about a guy who has been looking to engage me in prostitution for a year now, maybe even set him up before he lures somebody else into his 'Dateline' story.
There's a saying, OP: When you sell in desperation, you sell cheap.
If you don't even believe that you have more worth than this, then you will walk into disastrous situtions.
Stop fooling around with this idiot, who may not even be anything he's told you. Get your head on straight and do the right thing.
Work for it. Stop "falling for it."
Thank you. I know meeting him is not the right thing to do, but sometimes I trip into a deep hole of depression and desperation, and I'm back to wanting him again. He's the only guy (outside of my family) in my life who's willing to talk to me. Guys at my college don't talk to me unless they're just being temporarily polite. I'm completely invisible to men, most of the time they won't even LOOK at me. I can't get a boyfriend where I live, not even a broke one, so you could understand why I'd fall for this rich dude offering me everything I ever wanted.
At one point I was so desperate for a boyfriend that I went on Craigslist offering free sex. Well my ad got removed and I didn't meet up with anyone, and I wouldn't have met up or had sex with any guy off there either way, but still, if I'm doomed to be lonely or in crappy relationships for the rest of my life, it might as well be with a rich guy who can spoil me financially right? There are girls in abusive relationships who don't even get paid, or girls who have sex for free then get dumped. It could be worse.
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Thank you. I know meeting him is not the right thing to do, but sometimes I trip into a deep hole of depression and desperation, and I'm back to wanting him again. He's the only guy (outside of my family) in my life who's willing to talk to me. Guys at my college don't talk to me unless they're just being temporarily polite. I'm completely invisible to men, most of the time they won't even LOOK at me. I can't get a boyfriend where I live, not even a broke one, so you could understand why I'd fall for this rich dude offering me everything I ever wanted.
If you're actually in college you should make use of the mental health resources available to you. Get involved in some activities on campus--don't just sit in your room with your laptop communicating with some toxic mess of a person. Does your family know about this?
Even now, after a year, he hasn't offered you anything but words. If he's really rich and wants to woo you with money, he'd be sending flowers and gifts. He'd actually want to meet you. You're being played in a big way.
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Guys at my college don't talk to me unless they're just being temporarily polite. I'm completely invisible to men, most of the time they won't even LOOK at me. I can't get a boyfriend where I live, not even a broke one, so you could understand why I'd fall for this rich dude offering me everything I ever wanted.
I DO understand.
I agree with Fleetiebelle. GO to the counseling center at your school and sign up for therapy.
In the meantime, try very hard to be patient. I know things seem bad right now, but you have to get some perspective. You will do lots of things in your life and meet lots of people. Just be patient and focus OUTWARD on other people when you feel you're in one of those deep dark times.
Make yourself concentrate on something that benefits other people, something to take your mind off of your perceived lack.
Lol same. This is the only time I'll get a chance to date a rich guy basically. I know the relationship won't last, we'll just be together for a few weeks (as a ldr) that's when he'll take me on nice trips and give me a bunch of new life experiences, while he gets companionship and sex in return. Think of it as a temp job.
He wants a woman to like him for his looks and who he is, but it's hard to like a guy who calls you fat, stupid, ugly to your face. so obviously I'll have to fake attraction. I don't know though because sometimes he calls me hot and beautiful and he's attracted to me. This guy is confusing, I still don't know what his motives are honestly.
I'm so unsure about this whole thing. He does seem like the abusive type after all. My feelings and instincts say no but my near empty bank account says yes.
How do you know you can believe him? How do you know he's not approaching a dozen other women on the same website (or others) offering the same thing? How do you know it's not a diabolical experiment in which he's testing women psychologically, to see how much abuse they'll take if he just throws money at them? For that matter, how do you know he won't throw you in his basement once he gains your confidence, and hold you hostage while starving you?
Thank you. I know meeting him is not the right thing to do, but sometimes I trip into a deep hole of depression and desperation, and I'm back to wanting him again. He's the only guy (outside of my family) in my life who's willing to talk to me. Guys at my college don't talk to me unless they're just being temporarily polite. I'm completely invisible to men, most of the time they won't even LOOK at me. I can't get a boyfriend where I live, not even a broke one, so you could understand why I'd fall for this rich dude offering me everything I ever wanted.
At one point I was so desperate for a boyfriend that I went on Craigslist offering free sex. Well my ad got removed and I didn't meet up with anyone, and I wouldn't have met up or had sex with any guy off there either way, but still, if I'm doomed to be lonely or in crappy relationships for the rest of my life, it might as well be with a rich guy who can spoil me financially right? There are girls in abusive relationships who don't even get paid, or girls who have sex for free then get dumped. It could be worse.
Do you participate in any clubs or other group activities at your college? College can be a very impersonal experience, where it's hard to meet people. You're not the only woman there that doesn't get male attention. It's not as uncommon as you think.
One thing that can help is meeting guys through extra-curricular activities, where you can get to know them first, and they can get to know you. In situations like this, people's personalities tend to be what others notice, rather than looks so much. You can also see what kind of hobby groups and volunteer opportunities there are off-campus. Sometimes women who don't hit it off with anyone on campus have good luck finding a guy out in the community. Take a look at enviro orgs if you're into that, or political action groups, the city foreign affairs committee that has a guest speakers program, volunteer for the city film festival, check out activities through the city Parks Department.
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