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I saw her at an event and she couldn't wait to get away from me. I texted her asking if everything was okay as she seemed to want to leave quickly. She then replied hours later with "I am go in to be honest with you, I do feel that ever since about August, things have changed and that is very upsetting to me as I feel like I am just not needed in your life anymore.'
Don't know how to reply but getting somewhere at least.
Just text her back and say something like, "I'm really sorry to hear that. I have enjoyed our friendship and while I know I haven't been the best friend lately I would like to meet so we can clear the air. Any chance you are up for [insert whatever activity y'all are used to doing ... coffee, drinks, lunch etc]?"
Just apologize and tell her what happened, honestly. “I started seeing someone and didn’t know how to tell you because I was afraid you would judge me. I am so sorry, you are still a dear friend to me. I handled it badly, please forgive me. Cane we talk?”
Something along those lines would be what I suggest.
Let her hear the truth and decide how she wants to react.
I saw her at an event and she couldn't wait to get away from me. I texted her asking if everything was okay as she seemed to want to leave quickly. She then replied hours later with "I am go in to be honest with you, I do feel that ever since about August, things have changed and that is very upsetting to me as I feel like I am just not needed in your life anymore.'
Don't know how to reply but getting somewhere at least.
AS I said earlier in the thread, you need to decide whether you want to hang out with Emily again or if you have time for her with your new girlfriend. Because if you don't, don't make Emily promises you can't keep. You will just make her go thru the pain again.
It's awkward. I will give it some thought but a face to face meeting would be best I think. Hard as it will be. I do feel a bit defensive but trying to get past that as it won't help.
It's awkward. I will give it some thought but a face to face meeting would be best I think. Hard as it will be. I do feel a bit defensive but trying to get past that as it won't help.
For the most part, you are in the wrong, so you may want to put that defensiveness in your pocket and sit on it.
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Just out of interest you say 'The most part', do you feel Emily is to blame too? I am just interested to hear the perspective
On what planet would Emily be in the wrong? I am seriously curious?
I know it's awkward, but the procrastinating doesn't make things LESS awkward. Ignoring texts really doesn't help either. Please acknowledge her courage to express her feelings in SOME way.
The saying goes, "Bad news does not get better over time." And apologies do not get easier to make the longer you wait to make them.
If you REALLY cared about Emily as a friend you would be doing whatever you could to set things right.
Just out of interest you say 'The most part', do you feel Emily is to blame too? I am just interested to hear the perspective
No.
I'm merely trying to be polite and not dog pile you.
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Ladies, he didn’t say Emily was to blame. He asked if and why someone else thought she was to blame. It was an inquiry.
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