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I have been having a casual relationship with a woman for a while, mainly for the sex, since I don't really have the time for any other relationship activities. We might go out to dinner, to the movies, etc, on occasion.
Well, long sory short, she's pregnant and I was pretty furious when she told me. I have a bit of a hot temper and can be pretty crass when I'm in that state. She started crying and I got even more mad.
We've spoken again since then, I apologised but told her that she's surely aware that no good can come from that baby being born. My main focus is my career and nothing is getting in the way of that. I offered to pay for the abortion but she says it's easy for me to talk. That having an abortion is not like going for a coffee.
I mean, I understand that, but she must be able to understand my point of view as well, no? What can I do so that she gets that the an abortion is the only sensible choice?
If having a child is that big of a risk to your future then you shouldn’t have been having sex, much less unprotected sex. If you can’t take the chance, keep it in your pants.
Time to grow up. Its called consequences of your actions. It’s her decision, and it’s great you are focused on the career, what with the child support and all.
You have no say in the decision. Being an azhat is certainly not going to change her mind
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If you are having sex with someone of reproductive age, you must be prepared for the possibility of pregnancy (even if you take precautions, which can fail.) Just the way it is. As someone else mentioned, it's her body and her choice.
I wouldn't want to get an abortion either if I got accidentally pregnant (even though I'm not keen to have children.) I couldn't deal with the emotional consequences of doing it.
I have been having a casual relationship with a woman for a while, mainly for the sex, since I don't really have the time for any other relationship activities. We might go out to dinner, to the movies, etc, on occasion.
Well, long sory short, she's pregnant and I was pretty furious when she told me. I have a bit of a hot temper and can be pretty crass when I'm in that state. She started crying and I got even more mad.
We've spoken again since then, I apologised but told her that she's surely aware that no good can come from that baby being born. My main focus is my career and nothing is getting in the way of that. I offered to pay for the abortion but she says it's easy for me to talk. That having an abortion is not like going for a coffee.
I mean, I understand that, but she must be able to understand my point of view as well, no? What can I do so that she gets that the an abortion is the only sensible choice?
P.S. I'm 34 and she's 27, if that matters.
Maybe next time pull out!
Also the choice is not yours it is hers and her body.
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