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Old 07-25-2019, 08:56 AM
 
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The same way the rest of us (fat, ugly, poor, stuttering, bald, deaf, short, paralyzed, boring, etc) guys did.
And how do guys like these do it?
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Old 07-25-2019, 09:19 AM
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A lot of people with physical disabilities are married.

It just depends on the person.
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Old 07-25-2019, 09:37 AM
 
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What hobbies do you have OP? Have you always these health issues? Did you have friends when you were a child or have you always had trouble making friends? If it's always been a challenge then I'd look for some books on how to improve your social skills.

Do you have a hearing aid? If you can't hear well that could be a problem if you miss what people are saying or can't understand them. If they say something and you don't respond because you didn't hear it, they may think you're ignoring them or are stuck up. I'd try to get your hearing addressed if at all possible because that could be a big part of the problem. In the meantime be up front, tell people you have hearing issues and if they say something and you don't respond it's because you didn't hear them and not because your ignoring them.

You may need to expand your social circle too so you can meet more people.
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Old 07-25-2019, 10:47 AM
 
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Let me try to provide further information without giving too much away, and then ask a branch question off of this. I have a titanium rod femur and artificial knee, which is very sensitive to impact. I am unable to perform tasks most guys my age can do like play sports, lift heavy objects, go through highly intense workouts, and do yard/house work. I also have to be careful about going out and walking too far. I even have other lasting health effects from treatment I’ve been on such as a weaker heart and reduced hearing. I am a young adult that has to worry about things most people don’t have to worry about until they’re senior citizens. People for whatever reason seem to be turned off by this. How can I find a romantic relationship or friendships with all of these health limits?
Yet, you're ambulatory, right? Do you have a job, are you self-supporting? I would think, that if you can walk around, you could at least do small housekeeping tasks, like washing dishes, vacuuming or sweeping, raking the yard, running laundry through the washer, and ironing (if anyone irons anymore, lol). Playing sports and doing highly intense workouts aren't relevant in most romantic relationships. Nor is lifting heavy objects, really. The guys I knew in college and after, didn't play sports. You must be able to find people to be friends with, who don't care about that stuff.

What about your mind, OP? There are plenty of people out there, both men and women, who are into intellectual or creative types. And good-hearted types. Do you read a lot? Do you have interesting hobbies? Are you a good conversationalist, and do you have the potential to be a caring friend? These things count for a lot, with the right people.
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Old 07-25-2019, 11:06 AM
 
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There are definitely people who won't date cause of a disability. Some people know better that you base it off the person and the experiences, but some people don't. People can still be just as capable just because they have a disability.

Don't let it hold you back. Focus on showing people what you can and do do. Don't sell yourself short!
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Old 07-25-2019, 12:00 PM
 
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OP, I would imagine you have other issues than just having limited physical abilities. Most people aren’t playing sports and doing heavy lifting on dates. Having some problems with your knee shouldn’t prevent you from contributing around the house as most daily household tasks don’t involve a whole lot of lifting or intense walking. If the issue is that you are expected to be waited on hand and foot, then yes... that is a problem. However most people are able to make some adaptations to make tasks accessible to them.
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Old 07-25-2019, 01:33 PM
 
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If you are a woman, NO!

If you are a man, YES!

Why?

https://medium.com/the-mission/women...s-9e09cf41d6c9

"He said, “Why do women have such a narrow band for dating and then complain there is no one out there?! Men date a wide spectrum of ages, incomes and heights. No date is dinged for being 5’5” or pursuing a career as a yogini.”

Charles was right. As long as a woman is kind, cute and brushes her teeth, she is considered eligible. This gives men a much wider pool of romantic candidates."


Men have no real standards, so a woman with a physical disability generally has no issues finding a relationship.

On the other hand, men with disabilities will have a much harder time finding relationships because women do have very narrow standards.


Source: Me, a 33 year old male with Cerebral Palsy

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Old 07-25-2019, 01:54 PM
 
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And how do guys like these do it?
There were 374 threads in the Relationships forum alone with "meet" in the title:

How to meet women several years out of college?
How Do I Get My Friend To Meet Girls
How to meet others in a college town if you are not a student?
Good non-bar/nightclub places to meet single women?
How to meet single women when I participate in social activities, yet there are almost no eligible single women to date?
Meetup to meet other singles locally?
How did you meet your spouse?
Is there any other way besides traditional "job" work to meet "basic" qualities of a relationship or fling?
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Old 07-25-2019, 01:56 PM
 
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Only if you let it.
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Old 07-25-2019, 02:30 PM
 
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only people who have a problem accepting that. then you get to find someone who doesn't, and that's better.
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