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OK. It's simple ladies: What is the ultimate turn on for you?
Me? I love a man in UNIFORM!!!!!!! (no, not the wanna be robo cops) When I'm driving and I see those blue lights behind me let's just say I'm frazzled for a different reason! I prefer cops but a fireman will do!
what really gets me going is pale, gothic Asian men in kabuki-esque drag makeup (aka visual kei).. kimono, dress or suit optional... but preferable. *wiggles her eyebrows* but that's just fantasy & is not likely to ever happen (though i hope it does).
here's a some examples of what i mean:
(yes, they're ALL men)
http://www.a-kon.com/bm/bm%7Epix/kamijo%7Es600x600.jpg (broken link)
(this is my beauty, kamijo *drools* - yup, all man here, too)
http://www.rockidentity.de/VersaillesW.jpg (broken link)
(this is a band called Versailles -- again, all men.)
(this is the man that started the whole gothic lolita clothing style & who's become both a musical & fashion icon worldwide!~ his name is mana & he's a classically trained musician.)
now.. realistically.... i like thinner (not necessarily skin & bones, though) Asian dudes with longer hair, no facial hair & if they have lip rings (optional) that's great... i also get turned on when they speak their native language.
this is atsushi sakurai *swoons* <3 this guy is my dream man... lol he gets me all hot & bothered. everybody that knows me, knows that i want this man's babies.... lol he's a lot older now (this was back in the early 90's.. he doesn't look that way anymore, but is still handsome!)
here's a youtube video (one of my favorite songs by his band, which is called buck-tick)
1) loves God
2) is open about his feelings
3) is not afraid to cry in front of me
4) can truly listen to me and understand/validate my feelings
5) knows how to be romantic
What if your feelings are INVALID? Does he still have to validate them? I think this is confusing for alot of men.
What if your feelings are INVALID? Does he still have to validate them? I think this is confusing for alot of men.
see.... this is where my husband gets in trouble too!!
Validating feelings just means caring about what I am feeling.
Feelings can't be wrong. We may be scared and we need
to know our man cares ..We DO NOT want to know why we
should not be scared . One counselor put it this way..
You need to respond to emotions with emotions ,not try to
intelectualize (major spelling issue there) when we are upset.
If I am hurt and my husband tells me why I am wrong to feel that way
things are not going to get better any time soon!!!!!
moustaches esp the horseshoe kind.......
rough around the edges kinda look.........
MUST DRIVE A PICKUP TRUCK-preferably diesel dually or heavy duty/superduty
wears wranglers,boots,cowboy hat or baseball hat
dips copenhagen
good sense of humor
keeny chesney "she thinks my tractors sexy"
sing it!!
I like fair-haired men and glasses. Don't know why, but I've always gone for the intellectual type. Hubby is a red-headed doctor, who wears glasses, and the funny thing is that he pursued me lol.
I like fair-haired men and glasses. Don't know why, but I've always gone for the intellectual type. Hubby is a red-headed doctor, who wears glasses, and the funny thing is that he pursued me lol.
yeah! some fair haired guys are really attractive. I don't recall ever thinking a red-headed guy was attractive, but I've seen blonde ones that were exceedingly gorgeous. Also guys with fair eyes & dark hair, like Tom Welling & Matt Dallas.
see.... this is where my husband gets in trouble too!!
Validating feelings just means caring about what I am feeling.
Feelings can't be wrong. We may be scared and we need
to know our man cares ..We DO NOT want to know why we
should not be scared . One counselor put it this way..
You need to respond to emotions with emotions ,not try to
intelectualize (major spelling issue there) when we are upset.
If I am hurt and my husband tells me why I am wrong to feel that way
things are not going to get better any time soon!!!!!
Validating feelings means agreeing that what you are feeling is right. Isnt it? Seems to me that if you are all upset about something that you have misunderstood and I say " thats right honey," then I'm just paving the way for you to be emotional all the time for nothing. Isnt it better to sort the issues out now? Women! I love ya all!
Validating feelings means agreeing that what you are feeling is right. Isnt it? Seems to me that if you are all upset about something that you have misunderstood and I say " thats right honey," then I'm just paving the way for you to be emotional all the time for nothing. Isnt it better to sort the issues out now? Women! I love ya all!
No...you are thinking like a man
Validating to me means I care that you are upset, I love you, come over here and tell me all about it. Even if she heard you wrong she is still feeling upset. After the reassurance that you care how she feels ...after some compassion... you can talk about the misunderstanding.
My husband and I used to go in the worst downward spiral after the simplest
thing when he tried to firmly explain how I got it all wrong when I was upset.
It seems unloving when I was upset.
He was trying to fix my "emotion" with logic and explainations and all
I needed was to know he cared about my feelings and loved me.
I think men are trying to do the right thing but women need TLC when hurt/upset not logic.
No...you are thinking like a man
Validating to me means I care that you are upset, I love you, come over here and tell me all about it. Even if she heard you wrong she is still feeling upset. After the reassurance that you care how she feels ...after some compassion... you can talk about the misunderstanding.
My husband and I used to go in the worst downward spiral after the simplest
thing when he tried to firmly explain how I got it all wrong when I was upset.
It seems unloving when I was upset.
He was trying to fix my "emotion" with logic and explainations and all
I needed was to know he cared about my feelings and loved me.
I think men are trying to do the right thing but women need TLC when hurt/upset not logic.
The best thing for a man is to just act like a big lovable dog in these situations. Don't judge, just listen and wag your freakin' tail, and hug. I remember a couple months ago talking to a girl on the phone that I liked, and she started to get emotional over a little incident that happened, so I tried to explain why it wasn't that big a deal. After two hours, it was a total disaster area on the phone. Lesson really hit home.
The best thing for a man is to just act like a big lovable dog in these situations. Don't judge, just listen and wag your freakin' tail, and hug. I remember a couple months ago talking to a girl on the phone that I liked, and she started to get emotional over a little incident that happened, so I tried to explain why it wasn't that big a deal. After two hours, it was a total disaster area on the phone. Lesson really hit home.
Kudos, chi! I have HOPE in you!!! So young and SOOO smart! Never, EVER, try to explain this!
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*wiggles her eyebrows* but that's just fantasy & is not likely to ever happen (though i hope it does). 
I don't recall ever thinking a red-headed guy was attractive, but I've seen blonde ones that were exceedingly gorgeous. Also guys with fair eyes & dark hair, like Tom Welling & Matt Dallas. 
