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Well, maybe bold the entire clause, instead of a just a part. I stand by the notion that someone who makes a decision to judge another relationship based on no other factor or circumstance other than the ages of the adult consenting participants is a terrible human being. Factors that play into finding a relationship match are incredibly complex. Saying that all you need to know is the ages of the participants to reach a judgment does indeed make one a bad person in my opinion. Character matters. How two people treat each other, how they respect each other, how they talk to each other... I stand by my words, but they should be taken in the entirety instead of piecemeal.
If you don't judge the couple, why do you feel it necessary to judge the people who disagree with the behavior? You too are being judgmental.
I agree with you on the couple, but people have different perspectives and values and can disagree.
I've never met a person 30 plus years my junior that I really wanted to spend much time talking too, at least in a romantic setting.
What about in a human setting? Would you really find nothing to talk about with people 30 years younger? I am friends with my adults kids' friends and my nieces and nephews. I have a close platonic friend who is 30 years younger. We gab on the phone for hours regularly, and he comes to visit for a few days at a time. We go to shows, go hiking or check out whatever is going on in town. We've vacationed together a few times.
Yes, I admit it's a unique friendship. So what? We are unique people.
What about in a human setting? Would you really find nothing to talk about with people 30 years younger? I am friends with my adults kids' friends and my nieces and nephews. I have a close platonic friend who is 30 years younger. We gab on the phone for hours regularly, and he comes to visit for a few days at a time. We go to shows, go hiking or check out whatever is going on in town. We've vacationed together a few times.
Yes, I admit it's a unique friendship. So what? We are unique people.
I wonder what the OP would think?
Most of my friends are younger. It may be because I relate to people in their late 20s because I spent a lot of time with my daughter and her friends were always at our house. I think I’ve been called immature for my age before, and I don’t really care. If I have friends to do fun things with, no one else’s opinion matters to me.
Romantic interests in their 20s though, I’ll pass. I’ve had a couple guys in their 20s message me on dating apps before but I just rolled my eyes at the though of it. Not for me, but I don’t care who other people are attracted to.
Most of my friends are younger. It may be because I relate to people in their late 20s because I spent a lot of time with my daughter and her friends were always at our house. I think I’ve been called immature for my age before, and I don’t really care. If I have friends to do fun things with, no one else’s opinion matters to me.
Romantic interests in their 20s though, I’ll pass. I’ve had a couple guys in their 20s message me on dating apps before but I just rolled my eyes at the though of it. Not for me, but I don’t care who other people are attracted to.
What about in a human setting? Would you really find nothing to talk about with people 30 years younger? I am friends with my adults kids' friends and my nieces and nephews. I have a close platonic friend who is 30 years younger. We gab on the phone for hours regularly, and he comes to visit for a few days at a time. We go to shows, go hiking or check out whatever is going on in town. We've vacationed together a few times.
Yes, I admit it's a unique friendship. So what? We are unique people.
I wonder what the OP would think?
We have good friends who are the same ages as my kids. 34 and 36. We all went on vacation together back in 2021 to New Orleans. During the pandemic blues, we spent almost every weekend together. The 4 of us dressed up for Halloween (she did my makeup).
This year, we haven't been able to see each other as often, and I miss them.
What about in a human setting? Would you really find nothing to talk about with people 30 years younger? I am friends with my adults kids' friends and my nieces and nephews. I have a close platonic friend who is 30 years younger. We gab on the phone for hours regularly, and he comes to visit for a few days at a time. We go to shows, go hiking or check out whatever is going on in town. We've vacationed together a few times.
Yes, I admit it's a unique friendship. So what? We are unique people.
I wonder what the OP would think?
I did say in my comments that I was talking more about in terms of a romance/ relationship or whatever.
I've spent plenty of time at family gathering talking to younger people and it's fine, light sports or weather talk is fine.
I do realize that there are some young people that can be more mature and interesting. I just don't want anything to do with a woman relationship wise that is 20.
I did say in my comments that I was talking more about in terms of a romance/ relationship or whatever.
I've spent plenty of time at family gathering talking to younger people and it's fine, light sports or weather talk is fine.
I do realize that there are some young people that can be more mature and interesting. I just don't want anything to do with a woman relationship wise that is 20.
Is it impossible that such a friendship could turn into something more if both parties were open-minded? Again, the OP said nothing about a torrid romance or a long term relationship. Who knows, maybe they are even platonic but like to spend time together like me and my friend.
Let’s look at this from a different perspective. When I was a Strapping Young Lad between the ages of 19 and 22, I’m not bragging I’m just stating this to make my point, I had older women flirt with me, hit on me and on a few occasions, I ended up in a scenarios fitting for a porn movie. Now bear with me I’m gonna make my point here. On one occasion I was doing construction work on a remodel for a woman probably late 40s, she was attractive, we had to move her bed. And stuffed between her mattress and box spring was a plethora of sex toys that she forgot to remove. Definitely an elephant in the room moment. As the day wore on and my coworkers left I accidentally forgot something in her house and had to go Back and knock on the door. She answered the door in an oversize shirt that was a buttoned down where I could see everything. Lol and she invited me in. The rest is history. Another time I helped a woman in her late 30s move. My reward? Hot sex with an older woman. I think I was 19.
So here’s my point, I wasn’t traumatized, I wasn’t taken advantage of, these were some of the best experiences of my life to date at that point. I learned a lot from the experiences. I learned self-control and stamina in the bedroom with the second one. She was having nothing about me finishing too fast. Lol
So today we live in a era when women are supposed to be equal to men. In all aspects including their sexuality. So if this is just a little fun, cheered upon activitiy that older women do with younger men, why should it be any different if an older man gets with a younger woman? Why is there a double standard? why can’t the younger woman say like I did, I got something from it I wasn’t taken advantage of, I learned a lot, and I enjoyed it?
If we’re truly supposed to be equals now, this is the way it should be. and hey, feminism made it this way not me. As a man in my early 50s who’s taking very good care of myself, I have more opportunities to be intimate with women in their 20s and 30s than I did when I was that age. It’s quite comical actually.
I have mentioned before the beautiful 43 year old redhead I got involved with when I was about 23. She didn't look her age at all, and I discovered older ladies who have had their tubes tied already. This ended when I left Atlanta for Houston to work as Oil Field Trash (And Damn Proud of it!). In retrospect I should have kept in touch and flown her out for visits. But I really don't think I was being taken advantage of in any way.
From an older man's point of view, the sex would be great, the rest a nightmare.
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