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Sometimes a younger person and an older person make a good match. It seems people get upset with this either because they are older and they don't like the idea of being in competition with younger people.
I hear gripes about that from women my age, who complain about men, like "they all want younger women." When I hear these complaints, they are usually accompanied by some snark about red sports cars and Viagra. But here's the thing. Not all guys want younger women, but so what if some of them do? So I kind of turn it back on them. "So if you think he's an idiot acting out a midlife crisis, would you WANT to date him?"
Of course they say no. So what's the problem?
I suppose I get it. Some women my age like being in relationships and still want love and romance and they have a hard time with feeling lonely. No matter who you are, what age you are, what gender you identify with, your sexuality, etc., wanting that and not having it sucks. Loneliness of any kind sucks. But I'm the opposite. I always had one guy or another hanging around from the time I was 14, never really alone for more than a few months and even then always had satellites orbiting in my gravitational sphere ready to splash down if given half a chance. So for me, it's almost like a relief. Yes, go. Go chase younger women. I've done my time!
I hope everyone finds love.
Nothing better than being in love and having someone love you.
Even if it doesn’t last forever, still worth it IMO.
You can find love in the most unlikely person. No reason to write anyone off as inappropriate.
Well, you're only 52, but assuming I don't know where you grew up, where you went to school. type of household you grew up in, I put the age difference biz on steroids these days. 52 with a 20 year old is too far apart unless she is atypical - clearly has a "daddy" complex - and, without that being the case, I'd run.
Women today are not what they were 40 or 50 years ago. Today an ulterior motive is way more likely then it was back then. But, on the other hand, look what she has for age-mate males.
I say you're only 52 - meaning you were raised in a different world than me. Frankly I can't stomach people under 50 these days. Just something very (i don't know) extraterrestrial? about them? But I never had kids. So maybe I'm not a judge.
In any event, you oughta watch a few episodes of Forensic Files - particularly the ones that deal with May - October couples (there are a few). In each case, he was clueless and paid bigly for it.
I am a guy in his early 50s that has connected with someone in their mid 20s. She is not your typical 20-something in that she works her butt off at her job, passionate about health, she's passionate about travel (takes 3-4 trips per year) as she wants to get out and explore, is involved in volunteer work, is going to start taking classes for something she wants to learn more about, and just overall driven. The conversations her and I have are more in-depth than the ones I have with people closer to my age. To each their own I guess, but I can honestly say she checks off so many boxes of what I would pursue as a dating partner (beyond just her being attractive). If she didn't already have a boyfriend, I wouldn't have an issue at all with giving it a shot despite the age difference.
I hear gripes about that from women my age, who complain about men, like "they all want younger women." When I hear these complaints, they are usually accompanied by some snark about red sports cars and Viagra. But here's the thing. Not all guys want younger women, but so what if some of them do? So I kind of turn it back on them. "So if you think he's an idiot acting out a midlife crisis, would you WANT to date him?"
Of course they say no. So what's the problem?
I've spent time thinking about this and the thing I think makes it a problem is that men know younger women will be interested in older men, so they see them as competition. It's a common trope that men like younger women. Though I agree not everybody does.
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I suppose I get it. Some women my age like being in relationships and still want love and romance and they have a hard time with feeling lonely. No matter who you are, what age you are, what gender you identify with, your sexuality, etc., wanting that and not having it sucks. Loneliness of any kind sucks. But I'm the opposite. I always had one guy or another hanging around from the time I was 14, never really alone for more than a few months and even then always had satellites orbiting in my gravitational sphere ready to splash down if given half a chance. So for me, it's almost like a relief. Yes, go. Go chase younger women. I've done my time!
I was rather content being alone until I met my partner. But I understand loneliness. Being alone isn't always lonely.
Men don't have a biological clock set to expire.
Women do.
It's more reasonable to expect a 50 yr old man to have children with a 20 yr old woman.
A 50 yr old woman and a 20 yr old man are unlikely to produce progeny.
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