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Take note that this hypothetical 20 y/o is doing this for her own selfish reasons with no consideration over how the gentleman feels - but, hey, he's getting a young hot piece of ass so everything is AOK!!!
Where I'm from, we call that 'thinking with your '. Smart indeed.
And then, oh yes, she will have a 'piece' on the side... and the 'old' man will then be relegated to 'sucker' status. Not a good hill to die on IMO.
Use him?
Both participants in this arrangement are well aware what they are doing, and what each is getting from the other one, and that's fine.
It's a business transaction of sorts, and I would hardly call a man who is more than a half century old, thus far more emotionally mature than a 20 year old woman who is not even legal enough to drink alcohol, to be the innocent one, and the one who is being used.
12 yrs is not as noticeable both physically and mentally.
30+ yrs is a bit out there
But you have touched upon a very very valid point... 50 yr olds tend to be more jaded, complain more, don't want to do anything... etc. So maybe he just wanted to change dramatically to a young, vibrant, "let's do stuff" kinda woman.
I may be picking the wrong older men, but everyone I dated my age and older usually has some chronic disease, chronic pain, can't do this/can't do that, complains about xyz, has major personal or work issues, is not really exciting to be around anymore, doesn't do anything outrageous/funny anymore, plays too much by the rules or if he does crazy stuff it is too out of line, etc. etc.
We sometimes wrestle at home until we are completely out of breath and sweaty. Can't imagine doing that with an older guy who then possibly breaks something because he has an old injury from 30 years ago.
Both participants in this arrangement are well aware what they are doing, and what each is getting from the other one, and that's fine.
It's a business transaction of sorts, and I would hardly call a man who is more than a half century old, thus far more emotionally mature than a 20 year old woman who is not even legal enough to drink alcohol, to be the innocent one, and the one who is being used.
Of course it is... and I am wise enough to keep 'business' with BUSINESS and not allow it to have any influence on my personal life.
Business is business. Pleasure is pleasure... and the two shall never intersect. At all.
The guys who fall head over heels - think I just barfed a teeny bit - for that scam... I pity. They are so blinded by desperation they are not capable of seeing how insane it is even when it's dangled 12 inches from their face.
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I may be picking the wrong older men, but everyone I dated my age and older usually has some chronic disease, chronic pain, can't do this/can't do that, complains about xyz, has major personal or work issues, is not really exciting to be around anymore, doesn't do anything outrageous/funny anymore, plays too much by the rules or if he does crazy stuff it is too out of line, etc. etc.
We sometimes wrestle at home until we are completely out of breath and sweaty. Can't imagine doing that with an older guy who then possibly breaks something because he has an old injury from 30 years ago.
They probably got those injuries dating older women a decade ago.
Being pretty much the age of that guy, I'll say this. I can't tell a 20 yo from a 16 yo or a 24 yo. They all look like children. Children.
By the time I was a senior in college the freshmen looked like little kids. And at least by the time I was in my 40s, all the college girls looked like kids. Women in their 20s may be pretty, but they do mostly look like kids to me at my age.
30 years is a bit much. By at least 10 years. A 20 year old is still a kid in my eyes. If she was 30 and he is 50, okay.
Yeah, 30 would be much better.
20's yrs old still have that baby soft spot on their heads.
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'. Smart indeed. 
