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I guess he could be bored but I figured he could always just DM someone in his state . And when he asked why I didn’t say anything it gave me some hope he was somewhat interested in the past.
I guess he could be bored but I figured he could always just DM someone in his state . And when he asked why I didn’t say anything it gave me some hope he was somewhat interested in the past.
What makes you think he isn't? My bet is he is DM'ing with a half dozen or so at once. As well as going to social events. I've seen it - and done it - before. A relationship ends, he's suddenly single and playing the numbers and all the angles.
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Originally Posted by Rugratnyc
Part of me feels like I already made the move by saying what I said. If he was into me wouldn't he have said it then? I overthink a lot
How would a guy feel if someone he was interested in said this to him? and what would their reaction be
Let me be clear that you did NOT make a move by what you said. The crushes were past tense. If you have interest now, say so, then put the ball in his court.
OP, has this guy ever even called you? Or is he just sending you messages through a social-media inbox?
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Originally Posted by oceangaia
I'd be a little cautious. I doubt he had these deep feelings for you and finally decided to act on them after years. I'd be concerned that he was "on the prowl" and going through his contacts looking for an easy score. Unless you're ok with that.
Yup. Whenever I hear of someone popping up from someone's past (and it happened to me once), I wonder why they can't find someone to date in their here-and-now that they have to dredge up people they knew 5-10 (or more) years ago...
Let me be clear that you did NOT make a move by what you said. The crushes were past tense. If you have interest now, say so, then put the ball in his court.
Now that I think about it you are right. I said past tense . I feel silly now saying I also have an interest now
OP, has this guy ever even called you? Or is he just sending you messages through a social-media inbox?
Yup. Whenever I hear of someone popping up from someone's past (and it happened to me once), I wonder why they can't find someone to date in their here-and-now that they have to dredge up people they knew 5-10 (or more) years ago...
No calls before hand just talking on Instagram. If I told him I was interested in him he could also see it being that way though which on part wouldn’t be true. I wouldn’t be trying to hit him up because I’m bored or want to play him or whatever. I have always had a liking for him but now I guess If I did say I was interested it would seem sill. We are in different states
Let me be clear that you did NOT make a move by what you said. The crushes were past tense. If you have interest now, say so, then put the ball in his court.
I don't agree with that.
That's a big deal.
It doesn't mean you're in for sure, but it's a HUGE difference from unknown. Big advantage.
I've never had that happen. It has happened to a friend of mine a few times.
It really depends on how good the guy is with women. It might be surprising or that type of thing might happen all the time and... whatever.
Steer the conversation towards another subject and make it jokey/lighthearted (so it's not awkward). If he wants you, he'll bring it back towards the conversation about you liking each other. If not, he'll go right along with the other subject.
I would be bold, in the middle of a chit chat I would say "Jeeez, it would be so nice if you would just live next door, we could go to dinner now and talk person to person." or something the like.
Who knows, maybe he will come visit. Or maybe he has intentions to move.
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