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There's this guy who I went to college with years ago. We started following one another on Instagram a little after college. I havent seen him in person since, we live in different states.
Recently he has been direct messaging me a lot. Commenting on the things I post starting small conversations here and there.
I assumed he was doing this because he is interested? Why else would someone who I havent seen in years all of a sudden be very active in my message box? I got brave one day and told him I had a crush on him back in our college days. Him and I had a mutual friend and were at a few events together.
His response was asking me why I didnt say anything and I told him back then I was more reserved as a person. He said he was as well and now I'm wondering what it means if anything.
I'd be a little cautious. I doubt he had these deep feelings for you and finally decided to act on them after years. I'd be concerned that he was "on the prowl" and going through his contacts looking for an easy score. Unless you're ok with that.
Honestly if you live in different states, I would assume the guy is bored but lonely looking for friends. How many people really are in into pursuing a long distance relationship?
Steer the conversation towards another subject and make it jokey/lighthearted (so it's not awkward). If he wants you, he'll bring it back towards the conversation about you liking each other. If not, he'll go right along with the other subject.
Honestly if you live in different states, I would assume the guy is bored but lonely looking for friends. How many people really are in into pursuing a long distance relationship?
It could be harmless boredom or just feeding his ego but I'd be wary if soon he says "hey I'm going to be in your city next week, how about we meet for drinks and catch up?" Unless she wants that.
It seems to me like he is interested. That's how my current relationship started. He commented on stuff and we started talking. My bf is not a flirter so until we kissed I had no idea he is really interested other than messaging me all the time.
I would be bold if I was you and flirt a little, get him out of his shell. See what happens. You have nothing to lose.
I am interested in him. Would it be bad if he did that?
If you are interested, I agree with Eve, flirt with him see where it goes or ask him how did he meet his current girlfriend? I would guess it is 60/40 that he is bored vs actually interested in a relationship.
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