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And this is an example of what I mean by "plausible deniability", the guy could (barely) say he was just trying to offer exceptional customer service. He's pushing the envelope I would use, but he's not outside it. Well he did sell you a 32 bottle package when you came in looking for a 12.
Good Lord, I love it when an attractive lady has car trouble. I'm good with cars, and I look like Superman when I fix their issue. Which I can frequently do.
Of course, it helps to be presentably dressed, and you have to be at least clean and not smelling like you just left the gym without showering after working out. Depending, if a gal has car trouble I can be a little scruffy as she is expecting a scruffy guy (but one she pays) to fix her issue.
But the above is an excellent example of how to make a cold approach work.
It's like in baseball. To make a run, you first have to at least make a base hit. You consistently get to first base, and you will get some runs scored, unless the rest of your team is a bunch of bums.
Yes! We're talking the same language!
By the way, he sold me a 32 pak because there wasn't a 12 pack. LOL
And...it IS like a game...and you're 'winning' if you enjoy playing the game, and if you actually score a date, then you hit a home run. Yay! But there's fun (and practice) in the flirtation and response...and if people could relax and enjoy it for that...they'd be happier I think.
By the way, he sold me a 32 pak because there wasn't a 12 pack. LOL
And...it IS like a game...and you're 'winning' if you enjoy playing the game, and if you actually score a date, then you hit a home run. Yay! But there's fun (and practice) in the flirtation and response...and if people could relax and enjoy it for that...they'd be happier I think.
And if nothing comes of it you walk away feeling good about yourself. That counts too !
And if nothing comes of it you walk away feeling good about yourself. That counts too !
Totally agree!
Like Minivan said, understand that you're talking to a human. Not a Barbie. A person who is more than the sum of her body parts. Connecting with a human being...there's a LOT of good stuff in that...landing a date is gravy. The whipped cream and cherry on top of an already delicious ice cream soda, if you will.
And that's why I say start small. Chat up the old man in the grocery store, the lady waiting to get her oil changed, the lady buying the big heavy thing of water, etc. Interacting in a positive way with people IS rewarding and pleasant in itself.
Like Minivan said, understand that you're talking to a human. Not a Barbie. A person who is more than the sum of her body parts. Connecting with a human being...there's a LOT of good stuff in that...landing a date is gravy. The whipped cream and cherry on top of an already delicious ice cream soda, if you will.
And that's why I say start small. Chat up the old man in the grocery store, the lady waiting to get her oil changed, the lady buying the big heavy thing of water, etc. Interacting in a positive way with people IS rewarding and pleasant in itself.
Yep. If you're not interested in talking with people in general, that means you're only interested in people based on what you can get from them. And if that's your attitude in life, people can sense that from a mile away.
I remember reading something once that's stuck with me: The measure of someone is how he treats someone who can't do him any material good.
Yep. If you're not interested in talking with people in general, that means you're only interested in people based on what you can get from them. And if that's your attitude in life, people can sense that from a mile away.
I remember reading something once that's stuck with me: The measure of someone is how he treats someone who can't do him any material good.
And what I've heard that stuck with me is watch how they treat wait staff at restaurants.
l've accidentally made embarrassing things twice last few wks, l could kick myself.Very unlike me .
l'm walking into one place, a really hot looking back car outside but you couldn't see a thing through the windows, nothing.
l dunno, just got caught up trying to see if l could see through the glass as l walked past and checking out the car.
Well , later l'm in the line inside waiting, nice looking lady in front of me but she seemed a touch edgy. Turned out it was her car and she was sitting in it while l was trying to see if l could see through the glass.
Then 20mins later l walk past her again in another store, she glared, thought l was following her after the weird car thing, then the line, then that.
Yesterday, someone's looking at a painting, l could see she was thinking about buying it and l'd spotted it too and wanted to see it up close but had to squash in a bit it was in a really cramped up spot. l said, that's a really nice piece, she gave me a look. l didn't realize we were so close and l was def' too in her space but it was a totally innocent slip, like car girl. l just got exited when l saw it, l painted for a living a long time, l'm into art.
Thought about saving some grace and saying sorry, l'm a painter got exited ha , if only she knew- but with that look l'm thinking ahh, better forget that. Like car girl, if only she knew l didn't even know she was even in the car and the line and other shop were just shear coincidence.
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