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The only successful strategy for meeting and engaging women is to simply talk to them like living, breathing human beings, not fertility goddesses. They are not video games that require some magical combination of button pushing to get to the next level.
So when I read about some strategy or the latest PUA whatever, I roll my eyes.
The only successful strategy for meeting and engaging women is to simply talk to them like living, breathing human beings, not fertility goddesses. They are not video games that require some magical combination of button pushing to get to the next level.
So when I read about some strategy or the latest PUA whatever, I roll my eyes.
Like a lot of skills, practice makes perfect. Start small. Practice making small talk with all kinds of people. Tell the old man buying the delicious looking bundt cake in front of you how good the cake looks, and ask him if he's bought it before, and would he recommend it?, or asking the lady waiting on getting her oil changed where she got her buffalo plaid jacket, cause it sure looks warm...etc.
Practice ENGAGING with people. As you get better at it, you'll have more confidence to make small talk with women, and be humorous and a little brave.
You won't hit a home run every time, but you'll learn not to take it as personal rejection, because you've had LOTS of experience of positively engaging with humans who responded in a positive way to you. And as you get more practice throwing out that figurative net, you will land some fish. lol
I’m not sure why anyone expects success by simply walking up to a stranger and asking them out.
You don’t know them, they don’t know you. I think no should be the expected response.
For some reason I was reminded of a poster a few years ago whose MO was to spot a woman in public, walk up to her and hand her a business card with his number on it, and walk off with nary a word exchanged. It never worked, but of course in his mind it was because picky women just wouldn't give a nice guy like him a chance.
The other day, I was in a gas station, looking to buy a 12 pack of bottled water. I wasn't sure where to look, and the cashier wasn't either, so she asked the distributor guy who happened to be there, Now...this guy had game. He COULD'VE just pointed to where the water was, but instead, he offered to pick it up for me (It was one of those 32 bottle packages) and put it up by the register for me. Then he offered to put it in my car for me. I thanked him profusely.
He insisted on being a gentleman for the beautiful lady (his words). I smiled and told him he was making my day. That was encouragement to him (his game was being received in a positive way.) He told me a few more times, in a few more ways, as he was carrying my water to my car, how beautiful I was, how beautiful my top was, my hair was, etc. I laughed and told him again he was making my day. He offered to shake hands, and held my hand a little longer than necessary.
It was a flirtation without a payoff (for him) there would be no date forthcoming. BUT he got positive reinforcement from it, and heck, I got a positive experience out of it too. Again...it doesn't always result in a 'score'. It's practicing the game, if you will, and getting good at seeing opportunity, and building on that confidence with experience.
For some reason I was reminded of a poster a few years ago whose MO was to spot a woman in public, walk up to her and hand her a business card with his number on it, and walk off with nary a word exchanged. It never worked, but of course in his mind it was because picky women just wouldn't give a nice guy like him a chance.
I remember that! If someone handed me a business card without a word spoken, I would not assume they were looking for a date. Someone who can’t even speak to me isn’t worth any of my time.
As Snazzy said you need to engage with people, before ever asking for a date.
What happened to guys recently where they lost all of HS and college - prime years for learning how to talk to girls? Why do threads like this even exist?
For some reason I was reminded of a poster a few years ago whose MO was to spot a woman in public, walk up to her and hand her a business card with his number on it, and walk off with nary a word exchanged. It never worked, but of course in his mind it was because picky women just wouldn't give a nice guy like him a chance.
It turns out that a lot of guys are usually awful at predicting how women are going to respond to their overtures.
So for instance, their has been research on why guy's send dic pics. The guys who are doing this do this hoping that women who they send these pictures to will respond favorably and hopefully send them nude pictures back in return. These guys sending these pictures tend to be younger and more narcissistic. But surprisingly these guys are not doing this intentionally trying to harrass women. They are just really bad at reading their intended audience.
Among gay men, I think suspect that sending likely dic pics does work fairly often, but what I don't know is whether these guys sending pictures to women are doing it because it only works in porn or whether some women unusually high in sociosexuality who will respond back favorably with pictures of their own.
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