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I learned a very wise lesson from my Dad years ago. We had a neighbor who was not a good husband and could drink and get abusive. Once his wife came to our house and told my Dad that he was coming after her with a gun. My Dad asked if she was leaving him or if she planned to go back the the home after he was sober again. She said she would go back. He then told her that if she wanted to leave the man, he would help her, but if she was going right back to the drunk; he was not going to endanger his family to help her out. This is a decision a woman has to make for herself and if the man is abusive, she should leave.
I learned a very wise lesson from my Dad years ago. We had a neighbor who was not a good husband and could drink and get abusive. Once his wife came to our house and told my Dad that he was coming after her with a gun. My Dad asked if she was leaving him or if she planned to go back the the home after he was sober again. She said she would go back. He then told her that if she wanted to leave the man, he would help her, but if she was going right back to the drunk; he was not going to endanger his family to help her out. This is a decision a woman has to make for herself and if the man is abusive, she should leave.
Your Beloved Dad is Very Wise Darlin'........................
Yesterday I was at the mall witha group of friends (three girls and three guys, including me) and we saw a guy yelling at his woman outside Gap. He was going crazy, like he specifically wanted to humiliate her in front of everybody. She tried to walk away but he grabbed her and pulled her toward him and kept on with the tirade. She was a real cute Latina with curves in all the right places so I don't think she had any shortage of men wanting her. But the thing about it is that she seemed to like it: the puppy dog eyes, the pouty frown, and the shriveling stance somehow made her appear as a submissive who secretly likes this kind of behavior.
After the scene was over we got into a discussion, which quickly degenerated into a gender war argument. Basically, the women said he had no right to treat her like that and one of us should have stepped in. Me and the rest of the dudes didn't agree with that chick logic. I took the forefront and pointed out the following:
1. She basically seemed to enjoy that kind of treatment, so why interfere?
2. Women hold prominent roles in society nowadays. We recently nearly had a female president and then, after she dropped out, we recently had a female vice-president. There are many women in the military and in the police force. One of the security guards at the mall is a female. I also pointed out to the loudest chick how she was in kickboxing class and her instructor was a 5'2" skinny brunette who made a living teaching men over 6 feet how to defend themselves. Thus, with all the advances women have made there is no reason why women can't take care of themselves.
3. Two events in my life changed my outlook on the whole situation:
--a friend of mine was leaving a house party and noticed a guy pushing around his girl. my friend told the guy to bug off and led the girl away from him, then my friend left. he drove miles away to his apartment and when he got out of the car to go inside the guy drove up to him, pulled out his gun, and threateningly said, "if you ever get in my business again you'll regret it", and then he drove off.
--my brother was at a house party when he noticed a guy pushing around a girl. my brother pushed the dude away and tried to get the girl away from him but a second later --BAM!-- the dude cracked a chair over his back and had to be rushed to the hospital and get stitches.
Chivalry is dead. Let it stay that way. In today's modern society there is no reason why a woman can't take care of herself, unless she secretly wants to be abused. Does anyone agree with me?
Ya' know what? I HAVE stepped in and I have never been sorry for it...I have called the police, made reports to Social Services AND I have PHYSICALLY placed myself between my friend and her husband when he was about to strike her...
Don't tell me about what I would do...I KNOW what I would do and I KNOW what YOU would do!
The op seems to be referring to strangers. Would you do all of this for a stranger if you were alone with no phone?
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Phone or no Phone..no difference...id step in..if it was necessary
...And yes..if the woman was rediculous enough to stay..then she's allowing the abuse.. and no,..i wouldn't allow her to always come running..id step in..if i needed to, first time especially if kids were involved ..then call the authorities if this situation happened once again..and discuss the issue with them..regardless,..a man should never lay a hand on a woman..and no one should just stand by and allow this to happen...especially another man..period.. To anyone who just stands and stares..what the heck are you being taught.. ( my god man!! ) obviously not what being a real man is about..cuz my father, uncles and grand fathers would've kicked my bee-hind if i just watched someone abuse another...and I WOULD HAVE DESERVED it...And so would my sons...
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