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Finally, Tony has had enough. He turns around and says, "I'm sorry, but you're being very rude. This is a conversation." Of course, this met with an affronted look from the OP, but at best they didn't shut up.
But it's pretty apparent that any number of people who inhabit this forum seem to have a tough time even saying "Good morning" to the cashier at McDonalds. How on earth does one get to that point in life?
That's shyness....it's a social anxiety and it's tied up with self-worth.
It amuses me when someone who clearly has always been outgoing gives advice such as: "be relaxed"; ah yes, if it was that simple. If you can't empathize with people, then you're not going to be helpful, just condescending. While everyone else works on their conversation skills, maybe you should work on your compassion.
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Best advice I've ever been given for shyness:
-Become so absorbed in the other person that you lose yourself. Then you will not be so self-conscious and can come off more naturally. Even when you are talking, keep your focus on them (their appearance & reactions).
-Replace negative thoughts with positive ones. Example: If you think "I'm stupid and unlikeable and will make a fool of myself if I talk to that person", then immediately say to yourself "No, I have a lot to offer as a friend, I'm a good listener, and I am knowledgeable on a lot of subjects". If you counter every bad thought with a good one, then your confidence in yourself will grow, and again, the fear will subside a bit.
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Originally Posted by RichardW
Tell me cpg35223 do you really care about other people's ability to hold a conversation or do you just find the issue that inconveniencing so as to need to fulfill your ego by telling us all what we should be doing? Seriously.
That's shyness....it's a social anxiety and it's tied up with self-worth.
It amuses me when someone who clearly has always been outgoing gives advice such as: "be relaxed"; ah yes, if it was that simple. If you can't empathize with people, then you're not going to be helpful, just condescending. While everyone else works on their conversation skills, maybe you should work on your compassion.
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Best advice I've ever been given for shyness:
-Become so absorbed in the other person that you lose yourself. Then you will not be so self-conscious and can come off more naturally. Even when you are talking, keep your focus on them (their appearance & reactions).
-Replace negative thoughts with positive ones. Example: If you think "I'm stupid and unlikeable and will make a fool of myself if I talk to that person", then immediately say to yourself "No, I have a lot to offer as a friend, I'm a good listener, and I am knowledgeable on a lot of subjects". If you counter every bad thought with a good one, then your confidence in yourself will grow, and again, the fear will subside a bit.
Yes, but this way, you get to benefit from my wisdom. And besides, more to the point, this post is written in response to the people on this board who have looked for advice on how to actually have a conversation with others. So, with missionary zeal, I have descended from on high trailing clouds of glory, all in the interest of getting these poor guys dates on Saturday night. Don't you see?
What would it mean if like, say, I went up to like talk to this hot guy, but I had several hair bands around my wrists? Would he think I was a punk? How long would be too long for him to stare at these hair bands?
It depends, what are those hair bands made out of? Crocodile? Alligator?
It depends, what are those hair bands made out of? Crocodile? Alligator?
And if they're made of Alligator, what do I tell her about them? And if she pauses in conversation to sweep the hair out of her eyes, what does it mean? Does it mean I'm going to get lucky?
Yes, but this way, you get to benefit from my wisdom. And besides, more to the point, this post is written in response to the people on this board who have looked for advice on how to actually have a conversation with others. So, with missionary zeal, I have descended from on high trailing clouds of glory, all in the interest of getting these poor guys dates on Saturday night. Don't you see?
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Originally Posted by cpg35223
Well, hell, that's all of us. Hahahahal
LOL, go my snake charming skills!!
Having been a message board freak for nearly 15 years now, I can say there's an aspect of every one of those jerks in my internet profile, I have been every one of those at some point in time and still can be pretty much a mix or a variant of that mix.
Having said that, can I say you're number 4, without you going IC-ballistic?
And if they're made of Alligator, what do I tell her about them? And if she pauses in conversation to sweep the hair out of her eyes, what does it mean? Does it mean I'm going to get lucky?
Then your in luck, you whip out your Interior Crocodile Alligator LP and impress her
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